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As the seasons start to change, and Starbucks rolls out their annual pumpkin spice latte, let’s take a closer look at how moderation and slowing down can actually enhance your vibe- instead of just be kind of boring.

Building Vitality: Stop Before You’re Done

Moderation. Small helpings. Sample a little bit of everything. These are the secrets of happiness and good health. ~Julia Child

Eating until you’re 80% full is nearly impossible. I’ve tried. I leave that concept exempt from this list. I’m targeting this section toward building physical and mental vitality.

If I go to the gym in the morning and pour it all out until I’m toast- well, now I have my whole day to go live. I’m going to go into the red as far as physical vitality is concerned.

The hard part is I likely won’t see the downside to this behavior while I still have the reserves of youth. Yet, when we start to creep toward our 40s, 50s and on that’s where all of a sudden the well of vitality that was powering this behavior can start to run dry.

We experience this drying up of vitality as health issues that start small, and often escalate. Our health sags along with our vibration.

As my favorite Ayurvedic professor used to say. “We all have a lifetime supply of cheese. Some of my patients come in, and I tell them they’ve already eaten through their lifetime supply of cheese, so no more.”

This applies to pretty much everything in life. What we don’t often calculate is that we’re born with lifetime limits on things that can appear infinite through the eyes of youth. Joint fluid, insulin, estrogen, collagen.

Anti-aging is about building vitality instead of leaning heavily on the reserves we’re born with to power everyday lives without moderation.

If I go to the gym in the morning and use about 47% of my energy for a workout, I can then skip through my day, and maybe even have some energy left to put in my vitality reserves at the end of it all.

A startling concept in our society.

The same goes for mental work. If I analyze something until I’m fried, instead of taking breaks, I’m slowly driving my mental vitality and vibration into the ground.

That exhausted feeling in our brains after we push ourselves too hard is the feeling of our mental state oscillating at a lower frequency. I wouldn’t make any important decisions in that space.

It takes far more vitality to repeatedly build our vibratory selves back up than it does to keep a rapid oscillation through moderation.

In a society busy buying face creams to combat aging, mastering moderation is far more likely to produce an ROI we’re excited about.

To Speed Up, Slow Down

Everything that exceeds the bounds of moderation has an unstable foundation. ~Seneca the Younger

As one of my favorite meditation teachers Jeffrey Allen shares, students are often asking him how to grow faster… and his answer is to slow down.

The fastest path to growth is respecting our capacity and not overshooting it; this way we don’t encounter the strain, blowback, and emotional baggage that comes with trying too hard. More on this in my article on how resistance lowers our vibe.

Stress means we’re trying to function at a rate that’s weakening our vibrational frequency.

Most everything in nature, our home frequency, unfolds in moderation. When we shove against this natural rhythm in our life it diverts us from vibratory regulation and makes it hard to hear our intuition.

Ironically, moving through life at our natural pace is how we get there the fastest and keep our vibration robust.

Yet, as Ralph Waldo Emerson notes, “Moderation in all things, especially moderation.” Sometimes you just want to run to hug someone, or eat the whole dang chocolate cake, and there’s a place for that too.

Clashing Ideas: A Catalyst for Progress

“I hope that even my worst critics remain on Twitter because that is what free speech means.” ~Elon Musk

There are people who totally disagree with what I write- and tell me all about it on social media with creative emojis. It’s ok. There will always be a yin and yang in the universe.

Counterpoints to ideas give us concepts to push off of. When different ideas clash the discussion process births entirely new concepts that couldn’t exist otherwise.

Moderation is often found in the middle of opposing forces. When we try to smother perspectives that don’t make sense to us we diminish our world’s capacity for change and creativity.

I recently listened to a woman whose podcast topics I completely didn’t agree with; I was curious to hear her perspectives in an area where I could sense my views were a bit extreme.

Not surprisingly, I didn’t care for a chunk of what she had to say. Yet, I felt my body soften as she made some… really good points.

I just couldn’t see the world through her lens with my upbringing. It was too different from her reality. I needed her perspective to help me see my blind spots.

Combining my perspectives with hers I felt myself slide closer to the middle of the continuum between our opposing views.

Oddly, I felt relief. Defending extremes (and trying to live them) can syphon our energy real quick. The middle is a more relaxing place to be.

Echo Chambers, Arguments & Your Vibe

It is best to rise from life as from a banquet, neither thirsty nor drunken. ~Aristotle

Echo chambers can agitate vibration. They enhance a sense of “I’m right and why aren’t other people seeing things this way because it’s so obvious?”

Believe me, I know this place because I’ve been there. Repeatedly. Yet, when I’m there I can also identify that righteous agitation coupled with intensity isn’t great for my vibration.

Arguing is like a sugar high for vibration. It often mimics what it feels like to spike your frequency way up… then drops your real frequency down. This is why it can feel a little addictive sometimes. We all love things that mimic the feeling of our vibration rapidly increasing.

There’s a more subtle vibrational fluctuation that happens when we can relate to more people than those in our corner. But it’s up and to the right, and that’s really what matters.

Connection elevates vibration. Arguing diminishes vibration.

My path to relaxation wasn’t in getting everyone to believe what I did. It was in listening to the other side and uncovering some damn good points.

She explores how measured engagement and creating margin allow us to integrate growth rather than spike and crash, or live without draining our reserves. Moderation, in this lens, isn’t dull- it’s disciplined alignment.

Rather than glorifying excess or rigid control, Jennifer gives us all permission to slow down and trust there are paths to success where we don’t have to sprint, and that sustainable vibrational expansion happens through calibrated restraint. She invites listeners to examine where extremes are destabilizing their frequency, and how moderation can amplify resonance with the life we want.

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For those of you who haven’t read my article on Money Frequency vs. Abundance Frequency let’s do a quick glossary of terms before we begin, so we are clear on what the frequency of wealth is. And of course, none of this should be considered financial advice.

Vibrational Frequency of Money or “Money Frequency”

These terms refer to aligning with literal cash flow. It’s developing certain belief structures, attitudes, skills and emotional fortitude that lend themselves well to creating money in our world. It says nothing about any other part of our lives.

We can align with the frequency of money and still be depressed. Aligning with a “money frequency” does not indicate a robustly vibrating frequency. Rather, it’s a frequency we can join by developing a collection of vibratory traits. It’s usually seen as one flower in the bouquet that is an abundance frequency.

While there are some universal traits most people aligning with the frequency of money share, each person will have their own unique blueprint for strengthening their financial frequency.

If I’m working with a real estate developer, a tech worker, and an artist there will be some overlap in what we reprogram to shift their monetary frequency, but most of it will be unique to the individual; they all have potential to create flows of money in the world in different ways.

“Cocaine is God’s way of saying you’re making too much money.” ~Robin Williams

Vibrational Frequency of Abundance

Resonating with this frequency is taking a more wholistic view of our lives. We likely still want money… and what else? What enhances our life that we can’t always buy with money?

Hearing birds chirping, deep connections with friends, a calm consciousness. All these aspects make for a rich life, and we can neglect experiencing them in order to make more money; this may or may not be a mistake for some of us.

Manifesting abundance is acknowledging many variables have somewhat equal value in making our life rich, and deserve equal focus.

Developing our lives through the lens of abundance tends to add balance to our lives, and with balance often comes an amplification of vibrational frequency.

“There are people who have money and people who are rich.” ~Coco Chanel

Vibrational Frequency of Wealth or “Wealth Frequency”

This is a bit more loosely defined. It’s typically a more experiential frequency than the frequency of money.

It’s more about aligning with the feelings and experiences associated with a wealthy lifestyle: getting a high rise condo with an epic view, actually using a wine cellar, watching your friends laugh as you take them out on your boat, flying first class on Singapore Airlines.

Becoming resonant with experiences that make your life feel rare. This can be a tricky frequency to get on.

I tend to get on it, then fall off it (repeat). It’s one thing to get on a frequency, and another thing to strengthen and hold resonance with it, but that’s a topic for another article.

Here’s a story illustrating a lesson I learned in my myriad of experiments around how to align with the frequency of wealth.

“You aren't wealthy until you have something money can't buy.” ~Garth Brooks

What We Feel is What We Program

Our frequency mirrors the feelings, beliefs, emotions and actions in our life in vibratory form.

The trick when tuning our vibrational frequency to align with money or wealth is how to avoid accidentally programming ourselves for anxiety.

There’s a lot of advice out there about treating yourself and feeling abundant before abundance will show up. Yes. AND. There’s a big caveat here.

Years ago I bought myself a pair of gorgeous shoes that cost more than my rent. While I was unemployed.

Did the shoes help get me align with the frequency of wealth? Kinda.

I felt most abundant swinging that bag home from the store, kicking leaves in the fall sunshine. I felt absolutely glamorous wearing them. (Although I once made the mistake of wearing them to the Manila airport. They had about seven buckles each and were a nightmare to take on and off at security.)

The drawback to this fairy tale is it was stressful using this “big leap” method to align my vibration with wealth. Yes, we need to be able to create the emotions we’d like in our lives before the actual reality can take shape.

However, what you feel is exactly what you program.

Anxious timelines can result from misplaced abundance programming. If we’re doing something we’re absolutely terrified of, these are the feelings we’re programming in to our frequency to attract more of.

I programmed more stress about money and abundance into my vibrational frequency. Did I wiggle myself in to a bit more alignment with the frequency of wealth? Yup. Did I also expand the frequency of anxiety that lives in me? Yup.

The problem is my jump was too big. Like trying to shove a hotdog in my mouth instead of taking reasonable bites.

I could have bought splurgy shoes while I had a job; I could have taken the money and broken it in to seven smaller purchases over time. Basically, what I did wasn’t scalable or sustainable without a lot of vibrational wobble.

Moderation May Be the Fastest Path

“Moderation creates abundance.” ~Iyengar, Light on Yoga

Reprogramming vibrational frequency needs reasonable repetition of thoughts or action for long term results to materialize.

The majority of us will learn how to swim by going to lessons 3x a week- not by jumping off a bridge into a lake once. The same is true for programming vibrational frequency.

It takes time to stabilize ourselves and process emotions that come from making big moves. Big experiences affect our frequency, but if the result can’t be repeated at reasonable intervals the effects wash out.

My jump with the shoes was big at the time. I don’t regret it, but I tend to do things in extremes, and I wish a smoother ride for you dear reader.

Don’t Overdrive Your Headlights

Considering what we feel is what we program, for maximum impact we want to embrace shifting vibrational frequency at a scale that doesn’t set off alarm bells in our nervous system.

Going from zero to shoes that cost more than my rent while unemployed was a stretch.

The key to aligning with certain vibratory bandwidths, like the frequency of wealth or money, is not to overdrive our headlights.

Doing so ultimately slows us down in an ironic attempt to speed up.

There’s a bit of a sensationalist culture right now that makes us think if we aren’t going to extremes we aren’t making meaningful change in our life.

What gets me on a wealthy frequency may not get you on a wealthy frequency; we have different nervous systems. Some of us will lease a fancy car, some of us will splurge on a big tub of organic strawberries. Both are perfect.

Some people thrive under financial pressure and some buckle under it. Amplification of vibrational frequency is so nuanced.

This is why I’m leery of YouTube videos or experts that outline specific steps to manifest abundance. Like getting a house that’s too expensive, so the money will show up.

It absolutely may have worked for them. And there’s probably a bunch of people who tried that, went into debt… and didn’t feel like making a YouTube video about that.

These platforms also tend to have a bias for success stories found through extreme means. This can keep people from trying anything at all because what these influencers did to find success is too scary for most people.

The formula is different for everyone, and the ability to feel the appropriate amount of stretch within ourselves is part of a vibrational success formula.

Spending Our Way into a Wealthy Frequency isn’t Sustainable

“Anyone who lives within their means suffers from a lack of imagination.” ~Oscar Wilde

Oscar Wilde was definitely on to something. Yet, he was in debt by the time he was 23. We can only spend our way into alignment with the vibration of wealth for so long before it’s often unsustainable to continue.

We are looking to become resonant with a frequency, and this process is arguably more of an internal game- supplemented by actions in the external world. The act of solo spending without internal work isn’t scalable.

We get to feel alignment with the frequency of wealth for a day, maybe even a week or more, but the vibration isn’t sustainable without spending again because it isn’t alive inside us.

Spending our way into a vibrational frequency isn’t the same as learning to create genuine resonance with it.

I’d hazard a guess this is what flamboyant Oscar Wilde did. He probably loved the champagne pop feelings of being in alignment with the frequency of wealth, but was likely writing checks his belief structures couldn’t cover.

Creating true resonance with the frequency of wealth is all in the strategy. Intentional spending matters.

We want to treat ourselves up to the point it feels just a bit uncomfortable. We display an ability to flirt with the edge of our comfort zone, but understand that flagrant spending a la Oscar isn’t going to get us there long term.

It’s likely why celebrities blow through fortunes they don’t recover, and lottery winners end up where they started.

The goal is to show some courage and mindfully create delicious feelings that program our frequency to align with the vibration of wealth, without being erratic or creating anxiety. All while keeping a relaxed eye on our present moment finances.

Keep in mind this intentional spending is only one piece of a larger vibratory puzzle that is mostly an internal game.

We can even start with just our imagination, creating situations that give us the feelings we use to reprogram ourselves.

Certainly, what I’m sharing here isn’t a magic formula. It’s one step I’ve found works well in what is a much larger process I haven’t even completely dialed in yet.

Alignment with new frequencies is often just as much, or more, about upgrading our mental and emotional vibratory layers in addition to taking actions as described here. The internal changes that have to happen even the playing field for everyone.

Remember, scalability and repetition matter when it comes to aligning with frequencies. It’s one thing to get on a frequency, and another thing to stay on it. If you’d like to look at what may be causing friction in your financial frequency I offer vibrational diagnostic sessions on my website.

Bottom line for this article is, if we make it too stressful to get on the frequency of wealth we will avoid it. A wealthy life isn’t just for the bold; it’s for the thoughtful and consistent as well.

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She contrasts this with abundance frequency, a more holistic orientation that values deep friendships and a calm consciousness alongside income. Wealth frequency, meanwhile, is experiential, resonating with rare moments like epic views, wine cellars, or flying first class.

The subtle trap? Mistaking alignment with the frequency of money for alignment with wealth or abundance. By continuing on to examine the frequency of wealth in depth Jennifer invites listeners to examine which frequency they’re actually strengthening, and what might be quietly neglected in the process.

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Robobees

Spoiler alert. We are losing a lot of bees. Enough that trucking them around the US to pollinate crops isn’t meeting demand. Robobees are now being tested to see if they can stack up to their conscious counterparts for crop pollination.

I have to say, I admire the ingenuity behind the robobee design. They have little polyester wings, and can swim.

Imagine a world of indoor urban vertical farms pollinated by robobees. Kinda cool right? Progressive. In a way, I give props to this idea.

Yet, imagining a world where a small drone of a bee comes and “dies” on your deck with a clink feels like kind of a sad reality.

Especially because you are more sensitive to the frequency of food than you realize.

Imagine being in a farmer’s field, sun on your face, surrounded by bees and a soft breeze.

Then step into the indoor urban farm with artificial lighting, AI powered robot bees and electric fans. Intuitively, which one would you rather eat food from?

Our bodies are set to naturally sense and seek out high vibration food options.

We’ve just become so disconnected from this ability under the fluorescent lights of a grocery store that we forget we have this superpower, until given a choice.

The fact that a room of real bees creates a frequency (250-300hz) more than double robot bees (120hz), or that sunlight oscillates in cycles of 400-700 trillion cycles per second, while artificial light is 50-120 cycles per second, doesn’t even need to enter your consciousness when making the choice.

I suspect this is why out of season tomatoes grown in greenhouses suck. They grew in a vibrational space with only a fraction of the vibrational love afforded to their outdoor counterparts.

We just call food like that bland. Yet, we could also call it low vibration.

Nutrition is Not the Only Thing We Get From Food

When you eat, you’re eating the humming vibration of nature, the frequency of sunshine, the innate wisdom of the natural world. The indoor lettuce is by comparison… dumb.

A blank slate.

We eat for vibration the same way we eat for antioxidants and nutrients. We just don’t usually think of it that way, much less shop for food that way.

Whether water holds vibratory memories is still controversial.

Some argue our cells are receiving vibratory messages and imprints of the world around us coded into the structured water in our food. The water in the food speaks to the water in our cells- and tells them a story of the outside environment.

It’s all incredibly interesting to me. If you’d like to form an opinion for yourself, Luke Storey has interviewed a wide range of interesting guests about water on his podcast, and it’s an enjoyable place to start.

So while there is certainly upside potential to growing more food inside with robot bees, there’s also a vibratory downside we likely cannot fully calculate.

Some of us will choose to make the trade, and others may prefer not to. It’s just important for people to know when there is a trade to be made.

As my former tech mentor used to say, “Don’t tell me what you’ve gained until you tell me what you’ve lost to gain it.”

Only Eat Avocados for the Rest of Your Life

One of the reasons we are losing so many bees right now is monocropping. Bees only fly about four miles from their hive, so just finding wheat fields is to them, like asking you to only eat avocados for the rest of your life.

Ironically, our drive for food efficiency is partially to blame for killing off the very species we need to pollinate it, and creating lower vibration food environments in the process.

Farmers have to use more pesticides for monocropping, compared to food grown using crop rotation. The monocropped food will cost less, but pesticides significantly lower the vibration.

To create a beautiful humming vibration for high frequency food to take root, nature craves diversity. I can’t measure how much of a difference it makes, but corn coming from a vast field of miles and miles of corn is unlikely to have the same vibration as corn grown next to squash and flowers and zucchini.

It’s probably like being part of a kindergarten class where everyone has the exact same personality.

Interestingly, another reason we need robot bees is real bees avoid the artificial light we use to grow food indoors. Think about that for second. It messes up their circadian rhythms, activity patterns and communication.

I have to wonder about the impact on us if we not only sit under artificial light in our homes and offices daily, but let more and more of our diet consist of food grown under low vibration light.

It’s a total 180 to our ancestors living and gardening outside, and I don’t think that’s without cost. Especially if bees are already giving these lights a hard pass.

Sweet as Artificial Honey

I recently fell down a honey rabbit hole, and came across a Vice article where a class action lawsuit found 70% of honey tested (from 110 samples) was adulterated.

Even honey from Whole Foods, Kroger, a farmer’s market, and True Source Certified honey wasn’t exempt from eyebrow raising results. WTF.

Adulterated results ranged from product claiming to be local Tennessee Sourwood honey actually being from Vietnam, honey claiming to be raw being heated, and honey with cheap sugar syrups added to increase margin- to the point of being “syrup with a pinch of honey.”

Honey fraud is a thing. Apparently there’s a lot of money to be made in honey.

I don’t envy the pressure on companies to increase profits every year. It must feel relentless at times. At a certain point where do you go? I guess for some the answer is fraud.

With the majority of our food system leaving the hands of independent companies and farmers, and entering the arms of huge multinational food production companies, that relentless need for profit is likely to diminish the vibratory quality of our food in search of margin.

Ironically, some of the same people who’d like higher quality food may be investing in these companies in the stock market- wanting to see that pretty chart keep going up and to the right. It can get rather convoluted.

This honey rabbit hole made me realize that, for me, part of high frequency food is about taking a little time to research which companies I want to mingle my personal frequency with by supporting them- because the larger market is looking a bit sketchy.

I see misleading statements on way more than honey labels.

However, doing this for everything we buy is idealistic at best. We’re all super busy, and taking time to research every company we buy food from is absurd.

I decided to start with choosing a couple products I repeatedly buy, and finding businesses I want to support. Companies that could even rub off a little of their high frequency on me when we mix.

For more on other things in life that affect our frequency when we mix with them, bounce to this article on things that influence our vibrational frequency.

Keep Coffee from Becoming a Fancy Gift

As part of my aforementioned quest for higher vibration food I started searching for a local farm to support with my honey dollars. Yet, as I was looking around I started getting a prickling sensation as I realized there weren’t that many local beekeepers left.

Like realizing something may have disappeared before I even had time to appreciate it.

U.S. beekeepers apparently lost 48% of their bee colonies in 2022-2023. That statistic is even more staggering than learning about all that fake honey.

In addition to the monocropping mentioned above, another reason is if bees don’t die from pesticide exposure on the spot, they can bring it back to the hive where it reaches critical levels in beeswax. If our current farming system is partially to blame for killing smaller members of the ecosystem, what’s it doing to us on a vibratory level?

Additionally, I became concerned wondering, “If bees go extinct, do we go extinct?”

Answer is it’s unlikely, but we’d be eating a lot of grains. Many foods from avocados to almonds, berries and more would become scarce, and thus make exciting Christmas gifts in a bee-less future. We’d still have coffee, but it would become “expensive and rare.”

So whatever changes you may ponder making after reading this article, even if you don’t want to do it for vibration or bees… do it for your coffee.

Part of a High Vibration Life is Syncing Up With Cycles

Did you know honey was seasonal?? Neither did I.

It’s harvested in June after the bees pollinate spring flowers, and is ready for sale in July. I was such a city girl I had no idea.

Yes, it’s a luxury to eat oranges whenever we want; I’m glad it’s not 1860. However, this luxury of abundance also scatters the ability of food to be our medicine. Produce hits its vibratory and nutritional peak simultaneously during its season.

This coincides with when our bodies need the nutrients in these foods the most. Allowing this natural pairing is making a high vibration food choice.

Yet we often see skirting this natural logic as something we’re lucky to have figured out a way around.

Seasonality is nature’s way of literally handing us the highest vibration food available at the time. Many veggies are high vibration, but if we are eating them off-season from a freezer bag we drop onto our counter with a thunk, this is low vibration food.

The Many Frequencies of Honey

When I was researching a resource to recommend to you on the vibratory memory of water I watched part of a documentary about Nobel Prize winner Luc Montagnier who was studying the topic. What caught my eye was the top comment:

“As a beekeeper I can see why honey is considered to have many healing properties. It’s in the liquid properties of the honey which hold the frequency of all the sap from every plant the bee visits. Research with honey frequencies I think would be very interesting.”

If we measured a bunch of different honey I bet we would find it to have different frequencies.

This is where it’s hard to quantify high frequency food just based on a list.

Discernment is needed to determine if a food should be considered high vibration or not.

In my next article on high vibration food I’ll examine a bunch of elements for you to consider when making this decision, and it would be wonderful to see you again.

If you’d like to keep reading about the vibration of food, check out my first article on the topic which covers a lot of food frequency basics.

Using uncommon perspectives, Jennifer discusses the importance of cycles and ecosystems in creating high vibration food, and how the companies and people we support in pursuit of food influence our vibrational frequency along with the food itself.

Rather than offering a prescriptive menu, she uses examples ranging from robot bees to honey fraud as a way to invite listeners to consider a more expansive view of what classifies something as high frequency food.

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Doing What We Want Doesn’t Mean Feeling What We Want

So often we achieve what we want to be… and then find life lackluster because doing what we want is not always accompanied by feeling what we want.

The vibration of what we achieve doesn’t pair with the emotional vibration we want to experience.

We’ve all experienced events where we strive for a goal, only to find ourselves a bit bummed, because neither the road to the experience, nor the achievement itself, feels as satisfying as we expected.

I have certainly projected feelings on to future events in my mind that don’t come to fruition. The logic flaw I’ve observed in all these experiences, is I think a path without very many of the emotions I want to experience… will somehow lead to those emotions.

A low vibration path loaded with anxiety rarely equals a high vibration relaxing outcome. We didn’t ride in to our destination on the right frequency.

It’s like baking a cake with salty ingredients; then being shocked it tastes salty instead of sweet. The emotions we feel as we journey down our life paths are letting us know the emotions we’ll likely find in the big field at the end.

Let yourself drift back to being a child, and your grandparents ask you what you want to be when you grow up. Then, imagine they ask you what you want to feel when you grow up. How would those two life trajectories track?

Keeping the second question in mind, we might be less likely to suppress feelings in pursuit of goals. Suppressing exhaustion or stress might work in pursuit of what we want to do, but through a vibrational lens they are red flags. Strong warnings of low frequency bandwidths we don’t want to surf to find out where they go.

“Where there is love and inspiration, I don't think you can go wrong.” ~Ella Fitzgerald

Vibrationally Surfing Our Way to Purpose

Our purpose in life is not always about what we were “born to do.”

If one of our main goals is to experience extra high vibration love we’re likely to put a lot of time in to our relationships, learning how to communicate well, and being vulnerable. What we “do” may be a second or third priority that earns enough to live, but isn’t the focus of our life most careers become.

We could measure things like self worth not against how many promotions we’ve earned, but if we’ve developed skills to respectfully disagree with someone without turning it in to an inflammatory situation. Both are displays of prowess.

Sometimes we are so focused on finding this thing we want to “do” in life that we miss our strongest vibration can be found experiencing creative flow, or ridiculously good balance.

I have a lot of respect for what capitalism can provide, but this singular focus on what we want to do with our life narrows our focus so much we lean toward expressing ourselves through our jobs… and I doubt that’s the highest vibration path for everyone.

When we are our most authentic selves we find our highest vibration. Starting off our society with questions like what we want to do when we grow up can orient a whole bunch of us down lower vibration pathways.

Really we all want to learn to surf the waves of frequency. Find a bandwidth that feels effortless, playful, fulfilling (or whatever your adjectives are) and get on that. Make decisions that keep you riding that wave. You’ll know if you’re on it by how you feel; does it feel like emotions you want? See where it takes you.

Surfing vibrational frequency is about going on a journey where we release most of our need to know where the wave we’re riding is heading. We just trust that if we’re on the right frequency, it’s somewhere good.

[Full disclosure: I still fall off my frequency waves all the time.]

Candidly, I’ve found it to be a far scarier, but more inspired way to arrive at fulfilling destinations. I can even admit I created most of the scary parts in my own mind. It’s just hard to give up control and surf through tons of uncertainty. Yet looking back after the wave, the path is often richer than anything I would have consciously picked.

When we intellectually decide what we want to do, and pursue that even if it doesn’t feel right vibrationally, who knows where we end up? Yet, in the latter example we have the illusion of control along with journey which makes it feel safer than vibrational frequency surfing.

There’s Happiness, and Then There’s Alignment

Taking this childhood questioning to a larger societal level, I wonder how Thomas Jefferson penning it in to the Declaration of Independence that we all have a right to, “Life, Liberty and the pursuit of Happiness” has shaped 200+ years of Western society.

Many use happiness as a measuring stick for life. We have generations of people striving to look happy and share epic images of their lives. Yet, I suspect all of us can sense the images and smiles cultivated for a camera insinuate a vibrance that often isn’t as present in the actual moment.

If we measured the genuine contentment/peacefulness/happiness reflecting from the inner worlds of a people taking a group photo for the 7th time, I don’t think we’d be shocked to find the insides often wouldn’t match the photo.

Sure there’s bad angles, and there’s when inner worlds don’t match the vibe we’re hoping will show up in the photo. So we keep trying. (We’ve all been there.)

The truly epic group photos don’t need to be taken more than once- because the glowing emotion captured is genuinely radiating from people.

If we had a stressful week and we are happy at brunch with friends both emotional vibrations will reflect in our face on camera (as much as we’d like only one to show up).

This is why most photos of children are magnetic; they are still highly aligned, aren’t trying to be anything, and own their authenticity. Even a photo of them grumpy can be captivating.

Having anger/sadness/worry inside while acting happy outside is subconsciously uncomfortable to be around. We are all better at sensing vibration than we think.

When the emotional vibrations we sense from people don’t match the facial expressions and body language it creates unease. We are receiving conflicting messages, even if on a subconscious level.

The more we align this rift of what we portray externally to what we feel internally, we shift in to a higher vibration. We feel more ease, it makes us more magnetic, and calming to be around. Hence, is the pursuit of transient happiness keeping us from expressing our authentic selves, and ironically keeping us from a happier and higher vibration life?

“Happiness is when what you think, what you say, and what you do are in harmony.” ~Mahatma Gandhi

I’ll never forget the time I walked in to a massage and when the therapist asked how I was doing I said, “Today has been humiliating.” I then got on the table and began to cry in to the face cradle. Double humiliation.

(After holding it together at the office I guess the faux beach wave sounds were just too soothing.)

I ended up spilling out the whole story during my massage and it was one of the most connective moments with a stranger I’ve experienced. At the end the therapist gave me a huge genuine hug and thanked me for being real.

I wasn’t the burden I thought I would be. My vulnerability was appreciated in a world where people act like they’re happy when they’re not.

Alignment is often more appreciated than we give it credit for.

Can Pursuing Happiness Cause Unhappiness?

Could the idea that we are supposed to pursue happiness be causing more unhappiness? For me the answer is yes. Human existence is challenging. I’ve started to reframe my life as if Jefferson wrote the Declaration to say we strive for, “Life, Liberty and the pursuit of Self Mastery.”

Because that’s often what it really comes down to, isn’t it? The higher our self awareness and self mastery the more our life shifts in to a higher vibration, and we experience genuine lasting happiness.

Through the lens of vibrational surfing, fleeting happiness is burning energy repeatedly taking the little beginner waves, and happiness as a side effect of self mastery is the deep fulfillment that comes from surfing the big waves in Nazare.

If we continually go out with friends to avoid depression or emotional discomfort inside us we’re locking ourselves in to a lower vibration life thinking we’re supposed to stay happy through fleeting experiences instead of self mastery.

The quality of our consciousness will only elevate when we face the challenges inside us. As we untangle our inner world our vibrational frequency soars, and true happiness blooms.

When we pursue fleeting happiness the rough patches that come with personal growth can feel like roadblocks to avoid. We may orient away from embracing the difficult and awkward choices that eventually lead to a calmer and more content consciousness in lieu of ephemeral experiences of happiness.

I’d even hazard the theory that as a society we are often trying to stimulate ourselves with short term happiness and dopamine to cover up the quality of our resting consciousness- which could be improved through practices that also enhance our vibration. How sustainable our pursuit of happiness is over time even affects how we look as we age; our vibration reflected back to us in the mirror.

I suspect we may be a society chasing the symptom that is happiness thinking it’s a starting point. This slightly haphazard pursuit may lead us away from less obvious, but more rapidly vibrating pathways we might otherwise be curious to explore.

The ideal for vibration is to combine fleeting experiences of happiness like concerts and cocktails with a lifestyle of self mastery that develops sustained happiness and contentment. If we rely solely on happiness from fleeting means we’re the proverbial hamster on a wheel that doesn’t ever really reach fulfillment.

Plus, the more of ourselves we explore the more of our personal gifts and talents we find to unwrap, and these often offer sustained sources of pleasure.

I’d also like to think that Thomas Jefferson, the well read inventor, violinist, singer, author and political figure, who spoke four languages, and was notorious for his study of botany and horticulture experiments… might ironically agree with me on the self mastery over happiness bit.

If you enjoyed this article you may enjoy another article I wrote with surfing pics. I can’t help myself. There’s nothing like getting up at 6am to watch surfers get the big waves; it bleeds into my writing.

Drawing on uncommon insights, Jennifer explains how trying to force or pre-script emotional states becomes a form of internal conflict, why clinging to “should feel good” thinking keeps people in loops of disappointment, and how allowing the full range of experience expands emotional bandwidth over time.

Rather than offering quick fixes, she invites listeners to notice where emotional avoidance creates static, and to practice surfing waves of experience with curiosity and presence, making happiness a byproduct of life instead of a goal.

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An Obsession with Positivity is Often Fear in Disguise

I’d like to add a disclaimer before we begin. Low vibration emotions get such a bad rap, but there’s really nothing innately wrong with them. The term low vibration just describes something with a slower oscillation.

Yes, vibrating rapidly is an avenue for improving our lives. No, that does not happen by feigning happiness, and acknowledging only gratitude and positive emotions while suppressing others. Repeat after me: suppression = storage.

Pretending we don’t experience what we call negative or low vibration emotional states is just inauthentic. We are humans; it’s part of the assignment. Maybe Deepak Chopra is so zen he doesn’t ever judge someone who chews loudly, or feel fear when his bank account hits certain numbers, but that certainly isn’t my experience.

The problem isn’t in having low vibration emotional experiences, but in trying to pretend we don’t have them. When we gloss over difficult emotional experiences to focus on the positive, it’s typically because we’re too nervous or apprehensive to fully experience the sensations accompanying the emotion. We may even label ourselves as “bad” for having emotions like anger or annoyance.

At its core level, this avoidance stems from fear. Fear of experiencing the physical sensations that accompany low vibration emotions. Fear of who we might be if we admit we feel them.

Daisy: “Well Billy, life is full of sad things, and when I feel sad I take pills.  What do you do?”

Billy: “I don’t know, I guess I just feel it.”

Daisy: “Ooh, that’s the saddest thing I’ve ever heard.”

~Daisy Jones, from Daisy Jones & The Six

I encourage you to feel no shame when you let slowly oscillating emotions blow through your human experience. It’s ok to be authentic, messy and imperfect.

Attempts to keep your emotional state in perfect check create constriction- when what we want to cultivate for frequency health is expansion.

Humor Me. Imagine You Have a Vibrational Frequency.

Imagine with me for a moment that you have a vibrational frequency. That you've always had a frequency. Frequency is influenced by things like the way our inner voice lines up with our actions, the emotions we feel, and what we do when no one is watching.

A large majority of the emotions we experience in a day stem from our belief systems.

Truly experiencing a life full of high vibration emotions does not come from avoidance or suppression of what happens to us, but by reprogramming our beliefs that create fear, anxiety or depression within us.

If I believe I don’t have much to be confident about, my beliefs consistently create emotions that lower my vibration.

The vibrations from these self-created emotional experiences are just as impactful, if not more impactful, than whatever happens to me in the outside world. What I create for myself is persistent. It is the stew my cells replicate in.

Fear: A High Impact Place to Start

Fear is a vibration we tend to create on our own more than it pops up in reality. There are times we are being chased, and there are times we make our body feel like we’re being chased.

Most of the fear we experience in our lives today is self-created.

If we want to work on just one way to raise vibration, addressing beliefs or unmetabolized past experiences that cause us to take actions, or form thoughts from a place of fear, is a high impact place to start.

Vibrations from slowly oscillating emotions like fear affect our nervous system, immune system, organs and posture. So many layers of us up-level when we start ushering stored low vibration charges out of our body and psyche.

When paying attention to our body we are naturally guided home to a higher frequency state. Our body is always tossing us clues about what’s happening to our frequency. When we suppress an urge to cry we are simultaneously suppressing our vibration.

The Power of “No, Thank You”

So, why bother with elevating your vibrational frequency at all?

When we vibrate rapidly it's hard for other people, experiences, or emotions to enter our field if they are vibrating at a slower rate. We resonate externally with who we are internally.

We talk a lot about raising vibration, but clarifying our vibration is just as important. The more clarity we add to our vibration through tuning, the easier it is for us to hook up with people we find interesting, and experiences we find satisfying.

It’s not about being “better” than someone else by having a high vibration.

For example, if we aren’t very discerning and hang out with just anyone, we color our vibratory field with a mix of vibrations. Cool. There’s nothing wrong with this, unless we want friends who possess certain qualities.

What we accept in to our vibratory field registers in our vibrational frequency. So if we compromise on that we’ll get more of the same… and it won’t be what we want.

We often have to go through a phase of clarifying our vibration by saying no to people, activities, experiences etc. before new exciting things show up that match our updated frequency.

Matthew McConaughey has some great examples of this in his book Greenlights. If you don’t want to read the book, the podcast he does with Tim Ferris about it is rather hilarious.

He basically talks about all the rom-coms he had to say no to (for years) before he started being offered more serious roles like Dallas Buyers Club.

“No, thank you” adds clarity to a convoluted vibration. It’s like tuning your instrument.

Gratitude in Disguise

Some of the most unpopular videos I made on TikTok were about how humans have a tendency to use gratitude to paint over other authentic emotional experiences.

In a world where we beat the drum of focusing on the positive for a good life we often unconsciously relegate slowly oscillating emotional experiences into the realm of “bad.”

Once we label something as negative, we assume what’s good for us is to avoid it. However, part of getting out of this hologram we’re in is to look at the flip side of our actions. Sometimes a hyper focus on gratitude hurts us.

Don’t get me wrong. If you’re sitting outside on a quiet afternoon and find yourself feeling grateful- absolutely embrace it. If you’re making dinner and want to think of what you’re grateful for while you cook- I’m all for it. If you want to manifest experiences by feeling gratitude for them ahead of time- hit it.

The issue comes when gratitude is less of a lifestyle practice, and instead triggered as a practice when we’d rather avoid difficult emotional events.

Instead of feeling what’s actually coming up for us, we decide to find something to be grateful about. Essentially avoiding the real experience under the guise of “raising our vibration.” This is gratitude getting twisted up.

Our conscious mind is telling us gratitude is the higher and “better” emotion. Subconsciously it’s also the easier emotion. It takes far more courage to sit in genuine anger, grief, or disappointment and find a healthy way to discharge it, than it is to ignore it (and store it) to feel gratitude instead.

The irony is this “gratitude practice” often cultivates a lower vibration through avoidance, and missed opportunities to develop emotional fortitude.

Black and white thinking, and the desire to simply our existence by labeling certain emotional states as good or bad, is part of what we want to cultivate a higher vibration to heal. As Dr. Zach Bush said in a recent podcast,

“To feel better I think all of us are going to have to be willing to feel more. Right now we are suppressing our intrinsic capacity to feel, and it’s obvious why we are suppressing it because most of what we are feeling is uncomfortable.

So feeling more is going to be that trust fall in to yourself. Everything you’re feeling right now is the only real thing happening to you. Everything else is a game show.” ~Dr. Zach Bush

Spiritual Bypassing is Not How to Level Up

Years ago, I was walking down the street in a wonderful mood when I passed some musicians collecting money to release their music. A man at the front said he was collecting money for the group. In my great mood I pulled out $20 for him.

All of a sudden, everyone in the group was around me, in my space, yelling at me that surely I had a $20 bill to give them too. I should give everyone $20s. I was so startled my amazing mood fell through the floor.

Afterward I told my therapist I felt bad that I was just angry, and couldn’t switch over to finding something to be grateful about. She said, “Jennifer, it’s ok to just be mad. Trying to find gratitude before you process the shock and anger sounds more like spiritual bypassing than allowing your genuine emotional experience.”

Transmuting our emotional experiences leads to wisdom. When we process the emotional experiences of our lives we elevate our perspective. We can look down on a previous situation; from this position gratitude for what happened naturally arises.

The processing of our greatest wounds is often what creates our deepest wisdom.

We leave wisdom on the table when we avoid processing, and skip to forcing gratitude. Gratitude, wisdom, and expanding our consciousness are natural side effects of deftly navigating the whole emotional journey.

As for my experience, I learned there are times to find gratitude… and there are times to find your voice and use it to tell people to back the f*** off. The latter holds just as much value as the former.

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She invites you to lean into uncomfortable feelings, saying no when necessary, and setting boundaries to avoid putting static in your vibrational frequency. Embracing low vibration emotions isn't a path to vibrational constriction—it's a path to deeper emotional fluidity, authenticity, and ultimately, higher vibrational integration.

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1.) Imagining Outcomes to Situations You Don’t Want

There’s protecting our downside, and engaging in what-if scenarios that practice emotionally creating the exact outcomes we want to avoid. We align with situations that match our inner world, so let’s not imagine ourselves into emotional states we’d rather avoid. It’s the first step to creating that reality.

2.) Prioritizing 3D Value Over the 5D Value

Say I have the opportunity look good by copying someone’s work. I take it. This is taking the 3D value (looking good in the short term) versus the 5D (building character and ethics). Turning down the opportunity, doing the work myself, and accepting I won’t look as cool takes far more inner fortitude and confidence. When we take the easy 3D value it’s like saying, “No thanks” to a higher vibration version of ourselves.

3.) Compulsive Listening to Music/Podcasts/TV

Silence, or the soft sounds of nature represent our home vibration. If we find ourselves uncomfortable in silence it’s a sign we have strayed too far from our vibrational home. It’s not that we need to drive ourselves to boredom, but learning to find peace in the comfort of silence is what keeps our frequency from spiraling too far from center.

4.) Looking for Quick Fixes

Here’s a pill to fix your migraine. Do you want to explore why you may be having those?  Illness is often indicative of a disconnection from nature and our inner self, which is an inherently low vibration state.

When we silence symptoms and move on, we bury a clue the body was giving us about how it’s going out of balance, and into a lower vibration realm. Choosing not to solve for the root causes of health issues are one of the main ways we let our vibration get out of check.  Don’t leave this candy on the table. 

5.) Making Promises You Don’t Keep

When we consistently let other people down the disappointment and frustration we’re creating in the world impacts our vibration.

6.) Consistently Accommodating Others

When we consistently prioritize others who are we not prioritizing? Ourselves. Who is going to end up with low vibration frustration and resentment stored? Us. When we primarily concern ourselves with keeping other’s feelings intact we train ourselves to look outward instead of inward- where intuition and insight on how to raise vibration live.

When we care for ourselves we’re often in a higher vibration space, and people naturally gravitate into our orbit. It’s a much healthier way to keep those in our space content vs. ignoring our needs and diminishing our vibration by routinely indulging others.

7.) Engaging in Unequal Resource Chains

From peanut butter made cheaper with palm oil that kicks the rainforest in the shins, to paying less for clothes from trendy sites with cringy labor practices, to if farm animals deserve a life with some kindness, there are vibratory trades happening as we shift benefits around the resource chains we participate in.

We take a vibrational hit when we choose not to develop awareness of other beings in our supply chains, and share some value with them. Even if it means not having as many “looks” in our closet.  There’s a vibratory cost to excess gained through unethical advantages.

I’m sure there are many ways I’m still a hypocrite on this one, but I’m doing my best to say no to as many purchases as I can that support supply chains with little to no kindness shown for a cow, or a woman in Bangladesh.  

“All beings cherish happiness and do not want to suffer. It then becomes both morally wrong and pragmatically unwise to pursue only one's own happiness oblivious to the feelings and aspirations of all others.” ~Dalai Lama

8.) Disrupting Circadian Rhythms

What is vibration if not a collection of rhythms? When we overdose on too much artificial light, not enough time outside, or too many screens it’s like micro-dosing on vibration disruptors.

9.) Low Vibration Language 

Do you ever get the sense you can feel when someone’s language is creating a hole for them they’ll have to vibrationally climb out of? When I sense this it’s usually talk punctuated with a lot of swear words, limiting language, and an external focus that doesn’t take a lot of personal ownership or accountability.

10.) Avoiding the Cleansing Periods of Life

Cleansing periods are what I call the seasons of life where we have to let go of our old ways, people, routines or things we’ve built to move in to the next up-leveled version of us. Avoiding this space of cleansing is how we delay becoming the dopest soul we can be. It’s like fall; growth doesn’t let us avoid seasons. If a tree holds its leaves forever it becomes the ugly tree of the next season.

There’s a grace and courage in this transition, and in developing the faith spring comes next. Whether it’s letting go of a relationship that doesn’t resonate and hanging out by yourself until other people you want to date show up, or letting go of old routines before you know what you’ll do next, we delay our vibratory growth when we fear letting go.

11.) Would You Want to Hang Out With Your Inner Voice?

When we don’t enjoy our own company, it’s often because we allow our inner voice to speak to us in ways we’d slam the door on a stranger for doing. Listening to insults, self doubt, or being constantly berated by yourself all day has a serious impact on your vibrational frequency.

12.) Messing With Your Microbiome

Just one course of antibiotics increases our risk of anxiety and depression; when we eliminate our biodiversity we put our self identity at risk. To quote a recent podcast with Dr. Zach Bush, “Self is not a single species. Self is a description of your relationship to the nature within you.”

We are getting to this crazy moment in science where we are realizing just how reliant our mental health is on pounds of bacteria in our gut. To believe we should routinely kill bacteria and fungi inside us to be healthy is now emerging as a serious flaw in our medical evolution. A chunk of our vibrational health is looking dependent on the healthy vibrations of trillions of bacteria in us. Trippy doesn’t even begin to describe that.

13.) Rushing

When we rush everywhere in life we turn ourselves into a weak magnet. Always being pulled around by someone else, or by stories we tell ourselves about why we need to rush, is vibrationally diminishing. Living in the vibration of rushing to things is very different than getting on the vibrational frequency of being magnetic and drawing what you want to you.

14.) Wanting People to Accommodate Us

We all have young parts of ourselves; we may think we want them accommodated, but the biggest favor someone can do us is calmly offer feedback on how our behavior is landing, and not accommodate our immature aspects. When underdeveloped parts of us are consistently accommodated we don’t grow.

15.) Trying to Force Conformity

This makes me think of one of my favorite Arrested Development clips where Job tries to start a party early by ordering everyone to dance.

In a world of differing values, and tolerance for only certain emotions at certain times, allowing space for people to fully express themselves (when it’s not in alignment with how we think the world should work) may be one of the hardest things to do. At least, it has been for me.

To let go of thinking people should always act specific ways, or value specific things is something I’ll probably never fully cleanse myself of, but I’m proud of the space I’ve created in myself while trying. Low vibration is when we try to force everyone else into boxes we build.

16.) Emotional Suppression

Want to tank your vibrational frequency? Emotional suppression is for you. Suppression = storage of low vibration emotions.

For a vibrational boost, give those around you the privilege of seeing who you really are and what you’re going through. The beautiful mix of vulnerability landing with present listening is magic for both souls.

17.) Needing Your Vibration Consistently Supported

Can you have fun on your own? Enjoy your own company? We don’t need to spend our whole day staring at the ocean solo to have a rapid vibration, but we don’t want it to be uncomfortable either.

When we consistently need the support of screens or vibrations from other people to have a good time, it’s pointing to something that may be going vibrationally wonky inside us. When we cultivate a peaceful vibration inside hanging out solo is just as rewarding as being with others.

“I find that when I can regularly practice solitude I’m singing to a different tune, I’m resonating at a different frequency. It impacts how I feel about myself, how I interact with my children. We no longer make time to just be with ourselves.” ~Dr. Rangan Chatterjee, Feel Better Live More

18.) Not Understanding Moderation

Some part of my soul just loves intensity, and I’ve been working in recent years to tame it. I’ve named this part of me The Maximizer. The Maximizer must wring the most out of every experience, find the most efficient route somewhere. Yet, there’s such an energetic cost to going for the most or best of everything.

It takes a certain amount of effort and strategy to consistently go beyond what’s moderate, and the resulting loss of vitality impacts our vibration.

Low Vibration Belief: People Enjoy Being Around Me When They Can Be the Bigger Energy

I’m pretty aware of the energetic currents in my body, and noticed I was habitually pulling my energy in. Subconsciously thinking people like experiencing themselves as the dominant energetic party… so they would like me more if I was small. Ugh. How sad.

Now I resonate more with the belief people will enjoy basking in a big beautiful version of energetic me. Especially because I’ve put time in to developing a juicy vibration; it’s like a gift I can give. If anyone leaves because they can’t consistently be the “big energy” that’s probably some good weeding for my social garden.

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Rather than focusing on obvious negativity, Jennifer highlights subtle vibrational leaks: over-consuming information without integration, moral superiority disguised as conviction, and rehearsing future conversations in your head. These patterns feel normal, even intelligent, yet gradually fragment vibrational coherence.

She invites listeners to notice where they are amplifying noise instead of resonance, and to consider how reclaiming internal authority, restraint, and discernment might radically stabilize their frequency.

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Updated: June 2025

Part 1: Freeing Our Self Identity

“When you find your original vibration you become very potent. You start to tune to something bigger than biology would have you believe in.” ~Dr. Zach Bush

To some extent we all probably trap ourselves with our identities. Who we want to be, and how we want to be perceived, keep us behaving in ways that become fixed over time. Once we get too many “I am” statements going, and build our confidence around them, it’s like taping ourselves in an Amazon box.

My need to be seen as a nice girl for a good chunk of my life kept me doing all kinds of things that kept my frequency small. With “I am a nice person” as a building block of my identity it kept me from speaking up, setting boundaries, getting angry, prioritizing myself, and making other people uncomfortable.

I chose to swallow my anger, be a pushover, and make myself uncomfortable instead. Awesome.

Later in life a huge chunk of my self worth was built on where I worked… and that made it hard to quit when the work was grueling and stripping me of my vitality. I chose exhaustion over losing a huge chunk of my confidence and identity.

My need to be seen as intelligent kept me participating in conversations as if people wouldn’t value me if I didn’t expand their mind. My identity limited how I connected with people. At the root was a fear of not adding value to those around me. Being kicked out of the tribe.

This is how our human desire to belong can keep us in inauthentic low vibration states. We grasp on to something about ourselves we feel good about, or that other people value, and we dig in. These decisions often happen early in life and just become part of “who we are.”

Yet, they are often at the expense of developing a more robust sense of self, and often aren’t even conscious decisions. In my case intelligence was likely just one of the first things I got props for- and so I ran with it.

I’ll probably never know which aspects of me I didn’t develop while I was busy being smart. (Although I’m highly suspicious hand/eye coordination is one of them.)

There’s not even anything wrong with going full tilt in one direction. We just want to be consciously aware of the identities we form for ourselves, and have a keen eye for if they could be limiting us, and our vibrational frequencies.

The Subtle Art of Dying Well

When we set up our identities to be somewhat inflexible- defined by how often we work out, what we eat, or certain personality traits, it fixes our life in place. Keeps us behaving in repetitive ways and having repetitive experiences. Yet, what our soul and vibration really need to expand are contrast, flexibility and novelty.

A robust vibration can be a bit easier to cultivate when we allow our identity to shift over time. Allowing different sides of us to bloom.

Some key parts of my self identity were unconsciously developed… in elementary school.

We want to be sure the version of ourselves we currently strive to embody wasn’t formed solely from a collection of traits we got attached to 5, 10 or 15+ years ago.

Finding a higher vibration encourages a modern self identity. It’s fun to have identity be a fluid and playful thing, versus something rigid we get stuck adhering to.

To take on new identities we have to let old identities wither; without feeling like we’re losing our sense of self. That’s hard.

Most of us find it easier to pick an identity and stick with it. Come up with a cluster of “I am” statements that are here to stay, and shove away the uncomfortable idea of dying to ourselves over and over again throughout our life.

Yet what if every time we allowed that rebirth cycle to happen we were polishing our diamond, enhancing our vibrational frequency?

“In the process of becoming free and expansive beings we will be dying all the time; dying gracefully… dying well.”  ~Kaelum Gaynes, The Dirty Spirituality Podcast

Do We Even Need a Self Identity?

When we give up needing to define ourselves a certain way we give ourselves freedom. I sobbed for a long time after I left the job I’d accidentally let define so much of me. My wavering little self image underneath wasn’t ready to hold up the weight of my choice. I felt lost and insignificant.

Somewhere along the way I hadn’t constructed a very solid sense of self, and grabbed on to achievement instead.

Sitting in a field one day I had the thought, “Do I even need an identity? Was my identity just holding me in place like that dragonfly in amber in Jurassic Park?

After some puzzling I decided we don’t want to be so flexible with our identity we don’t keep a solid core of who we are on hand. There will always be traits we want to stick with us, but amplifying vibration also encourages self image flexibility.

To be a magnetic human is to be a deliciously unique combination of traits and qualities. Our fear of not belonging can lead us to double down on somewhat bland, but very acceptable personality traits… like being nice.

Most everyone likes someone who’s nice. Yet, if we build our identity around easier, more palatable versions of ourselves, instead of more robust and complex versions- we’re limiting ourselves and our vibration.

Who would you need to be this year to raise your vibration? I bet I’d be intrigued by a spicier version of you.

Part 2: Freeing Our Brain

Now I’m going to take a hard right, and go really micro with this concept. When we are stuck behaving in certain patterns… our brain is also stuck behaving in certain patterns. Certain brain wave frequencies to be specific.

We want to transition gracefully between periods of our life in the macro, and if we can refine our ability to transition between brain wave frequencies in the micro- well, now we’re almost super human.

This is flow at its finest, and with flow comes a higher vibration.

Most human have habits that keep them stuck in beta. It has often been described as the, “Get sh*t done” state of mind, and most of our jobs demand its reasoning, calculating, thinking, speaking and learning.

For most of us, vibrational growth will come from avoiding the beta frequency.

Brain waves help determine what hormones and neurochemicals our body produces, so they’re a big deal. Especially since many of these creations make us happy and calm.

If we primarily live in a way that chains our brain to one frequency, we miss out on balancing hormones and neurochemicals released during other frequencies.

Excess time in beta leads to anxiety, stress, insomnia, and overthinking. Sound about right for the pace of society? I don’t think I need to tell you getting stuck in this frequency isn’t your highest vibration state.

Yet, my self identity that placed so much emphasis on work performance and intelligence was keeping me almost solidly in beta.

Strengthening vibration is often about kicking up to gamma for mental flow, or down to alpha for creative flow. Hint: both take relaxation.

I poured over tons of research papers to figure out what shifts the vibrational frequencies of your brain, and which neurochemicals and hormones are produced in each state (shown in the frequency chart below). Enjoy!

Getting to Gamma

Gamma is peak mental performance; information is linking across all areas of the brain. It’s approaching tasks that take heightened levels of focus and processing with a calm mind. Peak performers tend to have higher levels of gamma brainwaves.

If you want to raise your vibration for peak performance amplify your gamma by spending time in the sun, taking an omega 3 supplement, doing brain exercises, feeling compassion, meditating, and reading for enjoyment. (Look at you on your way to gamma now!)

Beta: Society’s Default Brain Wave

There’s nothing innately wrong with beta. We’re alert, solving problems, having conversations, and learning new things. Fabulous. Our brain just gets highly annoyed with too much beta- and throws a tantrum of stress, cortisol and tense muscles to get our attention. Not surprisingly, beta waves increase with caffeine. We do many intellectual tasks in beta that could be achieved at a higher level in gamma or alpha if we could chill out a bit.

Achieving Alpha

As Tony Robbins states, “There is no problem that can’t be solved in alpha.” Alpha is a relaxing contemplative state, with potential for peak creative flow at the intersection with theta.

We land here after a blissful meditation, moment of gratitude, finding forgiveness, or the rest period after a high intensity workout. (That moment in yoga when you start thinking about your grocery list during savasana is what it feels like to slip from alpha back to beta.)

Transporting to Theta

Welcome to the land of the monk, the experienced meditator. If you’ve ever zoned out while you were driving you know what theta feels like. The 7.83 Hz zone on the edge of alpha is a main resting frequency for the Schumann resonance, earth’s heartbeat.

Grounding helps us resonate with this frequency, as does shamanic drumming, and deep inhales and exhales held for counts of 4 at the top and bottom of the breath. You can even pop a probiotic; B. Longum strain 1714 lowers anxiety and helps usher us to theta.

Deepening into Delta

Delta is deep sleep and healing. The very edge of theta before delta is seen as another sweet spot for creativity, but more of the lucid dream variety. Both Thomas Edison and Salvador Dali were known for napping with objects in their hands that would drop when they fell asleep. This waking on the cusp of delta allowed them to harvest unique ideas found in this state.

Getting to delta is often about what we avoid. As Dave Asprey notes, “Blue light is the junk food of the light world.” If we want to slow down our brain waves we want to block blue light. Exposure to pesticides and air pollution also mess with delta activity.

A Relaxing Conclusion

What I find most inspiring about all of this is that when we allow ourselves to step back and relax we actually increase our chances of working in a peak state like gamma or alpha. Yet, so many of us fear slowing down will negatively impact our productivity.

So go play with your identity knowing there are so many things to love about you that likely haven’t even been discovered. Relax and find yourself in a more productive brain wave frequency. Give yourself the permission you’ve always deeply known you deserve. XOXO.

Using candid examples and personal reflection, Jennifer shows how these invisible bindings accumulate over time, often masquerading as “practical” choices or self-protection. She reframes vibrational freedom not as a metaphysical state but as the process of disentangling from old patterns with awareness, presence, and honest self-inquiry.

Jennifer invites listeners to consider where they may be unconsciously tethered, and what it might feel like to loosen those vibrational constraints.

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Updated December 2024

Extracting Ourselves from a Hologram

Becoming a high vibration person can be tricky because so often the beliefs that keep us stuck in lower frequency bandwidths are often deeply embedded in society. Even applauded.

Raising vibration is about extracting ourselves from the hologram.

We often evaluate alternatives based on what’s in front of us. When we look for what’s missing, see our societal adages and beliefs as beautiful paintings that aren’t complete yet, that’s when the game changes and our mind is open.

Vibrational frequency is not something that needs to substitute or replace old belief systems. It’s an element that can be added to them to enhance success.

It’s painting an ocean in the background of an image that only contained a boat and saying, “Doesn’t that look better now?”

Manifestation Methods & How Hard Work is Only Half the Equation

In a way it can be easy to pick working hard as a solution.

Yes, I purposely wrote that as a riddle to snap you into a warped mental space for a moment.

It’s my version of reaching in to the hologram and offering you a hand to help you out. Let me explain.

Much of my ancestral line hails from the Scottish Highlands. Hard work and grit are in my blood. I carry a deep reverence for what these values can produce in individuals and society.

It’s just that I suspect focusing on hard work alone only spotlights what’s seen if we look directly in a mirror. It misses what we find if we swing the mirror around to the flip side.

On the forgotten side is how vibrationally aligned we are with what we are working toward.

If we were talking about manifestation methods I’d say hard work is manifestation 101. It’s more about brute force than finesse, and it’s much harder because it’s all about reaching out.

There’s not a lot of magnetism or resonance pulling experiences in.

“If you want to make a quantum leap, quit thinking about trying harder. More effort isn’t the answer. Get ruthless about trying something different.” ~ Price Pritchett Ph.D

More advanced levels of manifestation bring finesse online, and it becomes more about how vibrationally aligned you are with what you want.

Vibrational alignment pulls resonant people and experiences toward you, while you move forward through hard work. Less effort, but far more nuance and skill involved.

This is why most people default to hard work, and don’t become the higher vibration person we could be if we focused on higher level manifestation methods. Many of us are constrained by timelines. We need money.

It takes a pretty high level of courage to not take a job that will pay us money tomorrow to spend time working on our vibration around money instead. Society just isn’t set up to allow us that luxury.

The dazzling success so many of us want to experience takes both the magnetism created through vibrational alignment with goals and dedication to put in the work.

Hard Work is Easy. Vibration is Messy.

Just putting in the work is something almost anyone can commit themselves to. It’s a straightforward equation. Higher effort often equals higher results.

This is why choosing this as a success strategy is easy. It’s straightforward. Understandable.

Vibration is a messy, new, and unfolding field full of contrary opinions- in both the languages of spirituality and quantum physics.

We’ve only recently discovered “empty” space is actually a mass of vibrating fields. Let alone pondered how it may affect us to exist in a soup of invisible vibrations- while simultaneously having a vibration all our own on a cellular level.

When we choose to throw all our weight behind just working hard we can avoid the messy experimental process of working with the invisible, and the discomfort of personal growth. Yet I sense there’s a large cost to that.

When we singularly choose hard work as our path to success we rarely set aside bandwidth for the flip side of the mirror. For example, making sure we actually carry a belief structure that aligns with what we are pursuing.

Yet, that overlooked alignment is what creates a high vibration person who goes on to dazzling success.

I’m going to hazard a guess Babe Ruth believed he deserved to play baseball with all his being to keep going while he held the professional record for most strikeouts. (A record unbroken for 30 years.)

Jerry Seinfeld had a lot of courage to keep telling jokes after getting fired from a sitcom- for not being funny.

What was inside Lady Gaga when told she wasn’t attractive enough, and asked to get a nose job to help her first single- and her answer was simply, “No.”

Being a high vibration person is making sure your mental and emotional game is on point.

Do we truly believe we can do it, or do we have imposter syndrome? If we keep working hard and not addressing the beliefs behind the imposter syndrome we waste energy and leave success on the table.

This is the vibrational equivalent of trying to press two opposing magnets together. All the effort in the world won’t do it. Only flipping one magnet around will.

This magnetism is what it looks like when we thoughtfully reprogram our vibrational frequency to align with what we are pursuing.

As humans we have the ability to create resonance with life experiences through inner work.

We have to work harder for things that are not resonant with who we are internally. 

When we shift our beliefs we shift our vibrational frequency.

Allow ourselves to experience more contrast in life, and we develop an expansive consciousness offering us higher vibration ideas.

Align with how our soul wants to experience life, and we elevate our vibration. An elevated vibration brings us more aligned opportunities, synchronicity, and insight.

I’ve listed a few key areas here, but there are SO many ways we can shift our vibrations. That’s what makes it overwhelming, and harder to choose, because it’s much easier to wrap our head around just working hard.

Lose a Fortune & Build it Back Instantly

When we build our world from a place of inner focus and development it’s far harder to lose what we create- because we are a match for it. 

If we lost what we built we’d have it almost fly back at us.  Throw money out the window and have it blow back in the car.  We couldn’t keep it away because we’d be a vibrational match for it.

Vibrational frequency affords us the option of making ourselves the other side of the magnet for what we want.

Hard work can get us there as well, but there’s typically far fewer side effects and burn out when we incorporate vibrational frequency. The ability to get where we want to go while still remaining a vibrant version of ourselves is the trademark of a high vibration person.

Vibrational frequency and hard work are meant to work together as a system. When we choose one at the exclusion of the other we spin up unwanted side effects as a result.

To me this explains why some people can lose a fortune and build it back instantly.  They almost couldn’t avoid it.  Skills absolutely play a role, and how much we have made ourselves a match with what we want is undervalued at best, or at worst, not examined at all.

People who consistently fear losing their money or empire may be sensing the resonance missing with a fortune amassed through sheer determination.  Sensing it would take extravagant effort to rebuild if lost. It didn’t come easy for a reason.

When Manifestation Doesn’t Work

I wouldn’t advise anyone to use only vibrational frequency to create their life either. I feel like you often see hyper spiritual people trying this formula.

Achieving what we want likely can be done using only vibrational frequency, but that would take an understanding way past our current comprehension, a huge window of tolerance for errors and experimentation, and comfort with a long time horizon of little to no results.

300 years from now this could be how humans get things done, but for right now I’m a big fan of coupling vibrational frequency with some Scottish work ethic.

Trying to manifest before being in alignment looks like working hard to hit an income target you subconsciously don’t think you deserve to earn. Results tend to lean toward chaotic or lackluster. 

When our manifestation methods don’t take in to account there’s another side of the mirror to align with, and think it’s only about getting clear on what we want and working hard, we often burn ourselves out. 

Pouring all our effort in to moving toward something we are vibrationally pushing away.  

(Try this article if you want to read about any of my personal fails experimenting with vibration.)

Unscalable Success = Unscalable Coping Mechanisms

The puzzle gets even more complicated. When we burn ourselves out using semi-unscalable methods of working toward success, we often reach for unscalable coping mechanisms to sooth the pain or balance our vibration, even if just for a few hours.

Most people wouldn’t call drinking or eating chocolate to feel better balancing their vibration, but I would. We are essentially using substances or activities to mimic what a balanced vibration feels like.

We all feel the siren’s call of home issued by our body. The want to feel calm, with a decently uncluttered mind, to relax and have some laughs. Humans will almost always find a way to get there.

Yet, often the quick fixes for being out of balance carry moderate to heavy side effects that cause bigger imbalances, illness, troubled relationships etc. later in life.

Ironically, what makes us feel like we are in a higher vibration space is what keeps us from becoming a higher vibration person.

If I took away your coping mechanism you’d have to actually address what’s wrong in your life to feel comfortable- and that’s what would raise your vibration.

The stronger the substance or behavior we need to offset an imbalanced or burned out state of being is often indicative of the issues it will cause later on because it isn’t scalable.

This is also why trying to “just quit” doesn’t work. It’s very hard to quit something that’s simulating balance for us.

Especially when fixing things could mean using personal growth techniques to shift an invisible vibration. That’s a hard nope for many, many people. Understandably.

My hope is writing this article encourages you to rethink your personal manifestation methods, and fling an arm outside the hologram by considering there’s more to our society’s formula for success than we’ve really acknowledged yet.

If you have anything you feel could be holding you back vibrationally, pop over to my website and see if a vibrational diagnostic session feels resonant to you. I’m looking forward to meeting some of you new readers!

If you’d like to keep reading try the flip side with Signs of a Low Vibration Person.

Using examples from career decisions, relationships, boundaries, and how attention is allocated, Jennifer shows that becoming a high vibration person involves strengthening vibrational frequency alongside external action. She explores how resonance influences outcomes, and why increasing effort without recalibrating frequency can quietly deplete us.

Listeners are invited to reconsider whether their pursuit of success is aligned, or simply amplified effort without vibrational coherence.

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Updated April 2026

Low Vibration Person Disclaimer

I’ve gotta begin by admitting I can’t stand the term low vibration person. I also feel similarly uncomfortable with the term high vibration person. They are so black and white; they suck all the air out of the complexity that it is to be human.

It’s going to be pretty rare for us to find someone that’s solidly high vibration or low vibration. We are all a collection of hundreds of vibrations that collectively make our vibrational frequency.

The goal is to eliminate as many of the slowly oscillating vibrations as possible and elevate our frequency.

We might find ourselves in a low vibration space while driving, only to arrive at an event and completely brighten a room. We might go home from absolutely crushing it at work, only to have our vibration sink in to loneliness when we are alone in a big house.

Point is, we fluctuate all the time.

When I wrote my article on high vibration people I spoke about those who seem to have found an upward spiral.

They’ve aligned with themselves, broken through barriers of fear and rejection to do what they love, or developed themselves in to people with a magnetism or wisdom that’s contagious to be around.

Yet it doesn’t mean they don’t flip out at times, or never get depressed.

Calling Someone Low Vibration is Typically Inaccurate

I write this article and use the term low vibration person carefully. It’s not something I feel we can ever assign to anyone else with much level of certainty because we often interact with people in only a few areas of their life, or in limited capacity.

A grumpy old man at the grocery store might be the best grandfather ever. My Dad ignored me to watch TV when I was young, but he had a silver star for gallantry in action and saving his friend’s life in Vietnam.

Someone who breaks your heart can be someone else’s hero.

Only we can feel our own vibrations fully and assess to the best of our knowledge where we may fall on a continuum.

I also suspect humans carry a natural tendency to overestimate our own vibrations, and underestimate those of others. It takes a pretty high level of self awareness to see our own blind spots that sabotage vibration.

As I enhance my vibration more blind spots are always revealed along the way; it’s a slow ladder climb to the upper echelons of vibrational frequency.

Likewise, we tend to see people in one context and assume that’s all they are. So if we see someone on a bad day we may be tempted to call them low vibration, but vibration is a fluid thing, with a heaping dose of nuance.

The way we speak to ourselves in our own mind carries a vibration. Our gallbladder’s health contributes to our vibration. It would be very difficult to assess all the vibratory components of someone else and assign a high or low vibration value.

Sometimes I get annoyed with people and my inner dialogue might sling the term low vibration person their way. Then I sigh in disappointment at my judgmental self and think of everything I don’t know about them.

My hope is this article will be used not as a way to understand what low vibration is so the term can be used against others, but as a resource to understand what behavior that diminishes vibration looks like so we can all elevate our frequencies together.

Examples of Low Vibration Behavior

Perfection as a goal is a rocket ship to the land of disappointment.

Quite a few of the behaviors on this list come from things I’m working on turning around myself in life. (I feel compelled to note I’ve never taken a phone call in a movie theater, yet this is funny because my low vibration behaviors are far more damaging.)

I invite you to read this list with a sense of humor if something you do shows up. No one expects you to have it all dialed in.

Messy evolving humans are interesting, and if you’re reading this I’d bet you lean more toward an interest in personal growth than away from it.

Tupac Shakur has referred to himself as a thug, a poet, a rebel and a visionary. The contrast inherent in our humanity is often what makes us fascinating.

“I want to grow. I want to be better. We're made to grow. You either evolve or you disappear.” ~Tupac Shakur

1.) Lacking External Awareness

High vibration is the ability to stay in touch with how we’re doing, and have an awareness of how our behavior lands with others. When we get overly attuned one way or another we lose balance.

We want to be able to tell (and ideally care) that taking a phone call in a movie theater, or fixing something that involves hammering early in the morning is likely lowering the experience of those around us.

Lacking this care is typically a sign of someone in a lower vibration space.

2.) Deflecting Accountability

Someone recently drove in to my mom’s garage while the door was shut. Seriously. Then peeled out and left no note.

My jaw was dropped at just what a low vibration space someone would have to be in to cause such serious damage to someone else’s home and take zero responsibility.

This is an extreme example that can trickle down to denting someone’s car while parallel parking, or not being able to take ownership for issues we cause in a relationship.

Shirking responsibility for our actions in life typically indicates a lower vibration mindset. Taking ownership is how we soar.

3.) Thinking We Have Super Powers We Don’t Have

Imagination tells us all kinds of interesting stories- like that we know what’s best for others in life. (I thought I had this super power until about three weeks ago.)

It feels silly now, but I genuinely thought I had the power to see someone else’s best path for them, and naturally, tell them how to get there. I mean, how amazing right?

Wouldn’t you want me around telling you what to do? Except that you wouldn’t.

What’s meaningful in life is to find our own way; blaze our own trail. Everyone’s blueprint for success looks different. Someone with a different skillset than me will find success in a very different way. My action steps are only good for me.

Trying to force them on someone else with a different blueprint is just me wasting time lowering my own vibration while frustrating someone else.

4.) Lacking Confidence to Speak to People Directly

Venting with a friend is fine. We sometimes need to express our frustration with a trusted confidant to figure out what we want to say to someone directly.

Yet, when we consistently badmouth people with zero plans to discuss anything with them directly, this complaining lowers vibration.

There’s also typically a lack of confidence or conflict avoidance present we can work on if we want to start raising our vibration.

There’s so much elegance in finding your voice and communicating frustration respectfully.

5.) Believing Others Should Change

If we constantly find ourselves looking at others expecting them to change it’s probably us who needs to evolve. When I want someone to change it’s typically to help me feel comfortable in an area of life where I feel a lot of fear, or am not well developed as a human.

When we are secure, calm and confident in ourselves we don’t need others to change as much. That said, we get to decide if we want someone in our life or not after accepting who they really are.

6.) Copying or Taking Credit for Other’s Work

In a high vibration state taking credit for someone else’s work would feel so bad it would be next to impossible. Our emotions can act as vibratory warning systems. Alerting us through sensation when something we are about to do isn’t leading us to a high vibration outcome.

Engaging in either of these behaviors typically signals someone in a lower vibration phase of life who can’t sense the true cost of their actions.

Everything we do is recorded in our vibration.

There is no “getting away with something” even though it can appear that way in the short term.

7.) Getting in Front of a Waterfall

This is when we waste energy trying to redirect the flow of someone else’s life because we perceive they will end up with a negative outcome we can’t stomach.

They are in the river rushing toward the waterfall and we are blocking their way. Ignoring the principle that sometimes people need to crash down to bounce up.

We often delay people’s growth when we do this- all based on what we imagine will happen.

Maybe their soul wants the ride; it’s not our call to make. We can’t get in the way of someone else’s life choices forever.

Whether it’s perpetually saving someone from experiencing the true consequences of their choices, or keeping someone from going down a path that looks scary to us, it’s an energy drain that often lowers the vibrations of everyone involved.

8.) Disconnection from our Vibratory Alert System

My partner has an arsenal of tools and is incredibly generous allowing people to borrow them. I’m always surprised by those who return them in worse condition, or do something like leave them out in the rain.

Asking for a favor, and then leaving the person who granted it in a worse position takes a certain level of disconnection from self.

High vibration states allow us clarity to see when our behavior is questionable, and gently redirect us to higher vibration options- like delivering a thank you coffee while returning clean tools.

9.) Wasting Vitality on Control

I have a tendency to lean toward controlling behaviors. I did a meditation recently where I let go of any situation or person I was trying to influence. I was amazed at the energy that flooded back to me.

When we try to control situations or people we invest a decent amount of our energy in them- and that’s a big loss to us.

The more we try to control in life the more we give up big chunks of our vitality we could use in far more creative or satisfying ways. Potentially even enhancing our vibration.

If you are curious about your vibration I offer vibrational diagnostic sessions for those interested in identifying patterns disrupting their frequency.

Next you may enjoy reading what life is like when you amplify your vibration, or explore why it’s super awkward to become a high vibration person.

She explains how things like chronic defensiveness, lacking self awareness, and thinking we know what’s best for other people may not be personality quirks but signals of friction that wear down our vibrational frequency over time. Jennifer shows how these patterns show up in relationships, work, and inner dialogue, and how they often mask deeper avoidance of discomfort or unintegrated aspects of us.

She invites listeners to notice where they might be unintentionally lowering their frequency, and offers how considering the inverse of cited behaviors can move us toward a more satisfying experience of resonance.

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Anxiety: A Punch in the Face + Wisdom

Anxiety is a messenger with a bad habit of punching you in the face to get your attention. Then handing you a golden scroll with a critical message on how to raise your vibration.

Yet, we’re often too busy trying to run from, sedate, or fight the messenger to notice. With the scroll lost in the mud, anxiety is dubbed something terrible we have to get rid of.

I get it. Punching isn’t a great hello, and anxiety doesn’t really do itself any favors with an intro like that. However, as a society we often don’t respond to subtle real well. Subtle is overlooked, and when you have an important message you want to be sure you have someone’s attention before you deliver.

What if in 2024, the Year of the Dragon in the Chinese zodiac, we could recognize anxiety for the overlooked wisdom it brings?

Anxiety is often what happens at the intersection of programming and inner wisdom. Our programming tells us to behave one way and our inner wisdom strongly disagrees.

Bam! Anxiety is born.

However, the voice of our programming is so visceral we often don’t notice the tiny voice of our soul causing conflict. We mostly just notice how terrible we feel. The programming is so strong in its logic we rarely question the veracity of what we’re doing, much less if it’s going to lower vibration or not.

The more our programming is out of alignment with our soul the more potential intersections we have for anxiety to manifest.

As we begin to know ourselves on deeper levels we’ll likely have to barrel through some anxiety as this newly-discovered knowing conflicts with societal wisdom. Rarely does one size ever fit all. Whether it’s conformist rules or a tiny jacket we’re trying to cram ourselves in to, the result probably isn’t going to be epic.

Anxiety: The Red Pill in The Matrix

Finding wisdom on how to enhance your vibration amidst the unpleasant sensations of anxiety is downright uncomfortable. It’s like digging for a piece of candy in a box of ants. Many will decide they just don’t want the candy that badly.

However there is a way to get the ants out of the box over time.

Most all of us have been told anxiety is a bad thing, and there are all too many methods society offers us to get rid of it. Entire industries are based on it. However, it’s mostly self-suppression that creates the kind of anxiety that brings us to our knees.

Anxiety often begins as slightly unpleasant sensations alerting us that our inner advice is in conflict with what we are doing. Our body is putting up a red flag. Yet, because it’s uncomfortable, we shove the feeling down and don’t listen to it; we don’t recognize it for what it really is, and are taught there’s no value in it.

We learn pretty early on to suppress these feelings.

Over time suppressed sensations compound and collectively create a vibration of anxiety or nervousness in our bodies.

In Ayurvedic and yoga philosophy it’s taught that “issues store in the tissues” if we ignore them.

The golden scroll I mentioned in the first paragraph is a double edged sword. It provides wisdom on how to raise vibration through aligned actions if we listen to it… and it’s like swallowing the blue pill in The Matrix if we don’t. (If you’ve read more than one of my articles I imagine you to be a red pill kind of person.)

The courage to dig in the wisdom of anxiety is the red pill, and your own personal journey down the rabbit hole.

At a certain point we’ve swallowed so many blue pills we’re nearly electric with anxiety coursing through our bodies. Some part of us recognizes we’ve hit a limit and can’t take any more.

We start to become afraid of experiences and sensations that could contribute more anxiety. This causes us to limit our lives, or in my case, attempt to control my environment to prevent me from experiencing any more anxious sensations.

Potential Wisdom, Trauma Reaction, or Both?

If we transmit the vibration of anxiety it supercharges similar thoughts or experiences carrying a resonant base note of fear.

The resulting intense sensations are often more indicative of how much the vibration of anxiety is active in us, than discerning feedback on the situation at hand.

Becoming friends with our anxiety means discerning when we are creating anxiety from our own stored vibrational charge, and when it’s a zap of annoying helpful feedback meant to align us in the present moment.

Imagine two women, Elowen and Emma. Elowen’s vibrational frequency is tinged with the vibration of anxiety. A 2/10 on a scale of 10. Emma’s vibrational frequency is laced with a heavy dose of anxiety, 7/10 on our scale.

When both Elowen and Emma experience a nerve wracking situation Emma is far more likely to have an extreme reaction because the vibration of anxiety is already so active in her vibrational frequency. It won’t take much to trigger it. She’ll also likely recover much slower than Elowen.

The more anxiety we’ve suppressed the more our reactions slide away from what’s occurring in the present moment, and instead reflect the low vibration emotional charges stored in our frequency.

When I visualize this for myself I picture unethical tuna fishing.

Dolphins, turtles, and other creatures get caught in the drag nets. How heavy is the anxiety drag net for our life? What are we lugging around under the water that we can’t see?

We want to be pole & line caught tuna fishing boats. Nothing dragging under the water slowing us down. Not being in such a rush we roar through the world swallowing blue pills and dragging down our vibrational frequency.

Just because something is a trauma reaction doesn’t mean there’s not wisdom there.

It’s likely anxiety has been trying to deliver the same message repeatedly when this comes up, and has been wholly unsuccessful. Finding the message is key to not only unlocking the wisdom, but reducing future traumatic reactions. Ironically, anxiety can be looked at as the feeling of suppressed wisdom.

If you’re feeling anxiety I raise a glass to you. It sucks, but let’s also applaud that your body has a ton of insight it wants to offer you.

Resisting the Urge to Turn the Radio Off

One of the hardest parts of learning from anxiety is controlling the urge to turn the radio off. Imagine a Naval Intelligence Officer during WWII intercepting radio communication about a fleet of ships to be bombed.

The message is anxiety provoking to listen to, but contains some pretty key info. Visibly upset, the man turns to his commanding officer and tells hims the news. “Turn it off then” the commanding officer barks. “Can’t have you getting all stressed out listening to that.” Obviously, that would never happen.

There’s too much value in the message. We don’t want to make choices like that with our mental health either. Swallowing a pill to silence anxiety is like turning the radio off.

Not judging anyone for it; anxiety can be crippling and sometimes we need support. We just want to be aware of the trade-offs. The indicators and intelligence lost as a result can be deafening.

Anxiety is just a sensation. When we arbitrarily label difficult feelings as “bad” it can cause us to discard valuable insight just because the delivery is uncomfortable. Like refusing medicine because it tastes bad.

The next time you feel a stab of anxiety imagine me stepping in front of you and saying, “Whoa, slow your roll. Your inner voice seriously has something contrary to say about what’s going on, and you’re not listening.”

Are we letting someone trample our boundaries so we get an anxiety zap telling us to speak up? Then feel nervous because it’s uncomfortable for us to speak up?

9/10 times how to raise vibration is about doing the awkward thing- and this is why so many people unknowingly cultivate a low vibration through avoidance.

Using Anxiety to Elevate Your Vibration

My personal goal is to slow down, align with myself, and follow the awkward requests of my inner voice. Then see if my nervous system stops mimicking the erratic raptors loose in Jurassic Park.

It’s probably a stretch that I’ll become a little zen Buddha, but hopefully I won’t need anxiety to zap me to get my attention. It can become more of a gentle nudge or sensation- because I will have become someone who can pick up on subtle.

Someone who pauses to reflect and adjust when something feels uncomfortable instead of blindly plowing ahead with my mental plan no matter how I feel about it.

‘Cause even if I love my identity, if I built it while feeling a bunch of anxiety, it likely isn’t my highest level reality.

Anxiety can assist in upgrading us to our next highest version of self. Recently I noticed my anxiety sparking when I’d do things I pride myself on- stuff I’ve built my identity around.

Really weird.

Then I realized that to make room for a new me I have to let go of the old me, and I was fighting that. Hard.

Anxiety was basically whacking me with a newspaper like a cartoon character trying to give me that message. Despite the horrid delivery service, being curious about the contrary messages anxiety offers has value; possibly even equal to listening to intuition.

Anxiety has even helped me notice when I’m doing something kinda dumb.

Earlier this week I was stressed while setting up an international shipment; even though there was literally nothing to be anxious about. It confused me. Every time I went online to schedule the shipment I felt a little buzz of anxiety. Finally, it hit me.

The logistics I was trying to solve for needed two shipments. Not one. It was so obvious. I was just going too fast to notice.

I swear, there’s a wiser part of us that doesn’t get caught up in the rush of life, and senses when there’s a better path. Then it gives anxiety a little nudge to communicate with us.

The Power of Letting Anxiety Rip

I’ve just been letting it rip when my anxiety rears up. Taking away the shame that I am kind of an emotional loser, or doing something wrong when I feel anxiety is seriously liberating.

The belief that there’s nothing wrong with anxiety gives me courage to explore the sensations, and collect all the discarded golden scrolls laying on the ground.

My body was so sick of being told to calm down every time I felt anxious. I was seriously over it.

Now I just freak out (in a responsible scream in to a pillow, or throw a T-shirt that can’t break anything kind of way) and let the current feeling move through me. This also moves out a decent batch of the old stored feelings as well. Give it a try. Rip the Band-Aid off.

If we get through life by suppressing ourselves we seriously blunt our authenticity.

Digging in to what we’re feeling acknowledges the present moment, while simultaneously releasing suppressed feelings holding our vibrational frequency down. (Recall the story of Elowen and Emma.)

It’s key to get this old stuff out by feeling it so we can begin to react to the present moment. This is one of the best ways to raise your vibration.

That said, assess your comfort level with feeling emotions before letting it rip. Check out my article on emotional clearing techniques to get started, or I also work with an incredible embodiment coach I highly recommend. She helps me transmute sensations that feel overwhelming and find the wisdom.

Leveling up our vibrational frequency often makes us look like a mess.

We have to let all that low vibration weight dragging below the fishing boat out- and that’s never pretty. However, the cost of staying prim, proper, controlled and contained is steep. That’s what lowering vibration looks like.

Chaos is beautiful. Chaos makes you interesting. It gives you edges for people to grab on to. Come be real and authentic and messy with me. Dig in to that anxiety. I bet you’re a beautiful mess.

If you’d like to read something a little lighter next, try 10 Signs of a High Vibration Person, or learn about how jealousy can be beneficial in my article on polyamory.

*This content is for informational and educational purposes only. It is not intended to provide medical advice or to take the place of such advice or treatment from a personal physician. All readers/viewers of this content are advised to consult their doctors or qualified health professionals regarding specific health questions. Neither Jennifer nor the publisher of this content takes responsibility for possible health consequences of any person or persons reading or following the information in this educational content. All viewers of this content, especially those taking prescription or over-the-counter medications, should consult their physicians before beginning any nutrition, supplement or lifestyle program.

She explains why trying to force calm or bypass discomfort sometimes deepens tension in the nervous system, and how many popular “raise your vibration” tactics can backfire when you’re in an amped state.

Rather than suppressing the signal, Jennifer reframes anxiety as useful data. By meeting it with somatic awareness and honest self-inquiry, listeners are invited to decode what their system is protecting, resolve the underlying friction, and restore vibrational coherence.

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