Why Anger Can Amplify Vibration
There's value in emotions we often reject as low vibration. 8 counterintuitive ways to enhance your vibration using anger and its besties.
*For your listening pleasure there is also an audio version of this article read by the author. It may include a few sidebars ;)
Does Telling Someone to Calm Down Ever Work?
The emotions we express typically reflect if our emotional charge is moving inward or outward. We want to cultivate the ability to do both. Especially if it’s going to move us up the emotional frequency chart.
Like anything, humans typically get comfortable with one or the other. We get good at what we practice, and it becomes habit. This is how people can get stuck in states like depression.
Depression is an extreme, and often extended, period of inward moving emotions. Getting stuff stuck internally, swallowing feelings, not speaking up. Depression is about 5-7ish steps down from rage.
So if someone has been depressed and they start to rage- BRAVO. Slow clap. This is one way to raise your vibration using anger as an ally.
Provided they aren’t a danger, we can even encourage their anger. “I see you feel frustrated, wow I had no idea, tell me more…is there a sound you want to make with that?”
The worst thing that could be done is they are shamed for it, told to “calm down.” No. They’ve been calming themselves down in to a stupor for long enough. What they’ve been suppressing may finally be coming out.
Healing can look like rage. It just depends on if someone is on the way up from grief or depression, or on the way down from worry or discouragement. At the end of the day, we can’t make that call for anyone.
The Awkward Truth About Silencing Low Vibration Emotions
This is where we get in to creating space to handle a multitude of emotions coming from others. Trust their process. We’re just witness. We want to expand our emotional capacities to give those around us the freedom to change their vibration by expressing themselves.
Without this capacity we can silence others under the idea it’s for their own good… but really we are uncomfortable around big emotional expressions. We may also have varying degrees of consciousness around that awkward truth.
Typically we are uncomfortable around what we don’t allow ourselves to express. If we aren’t comfortable with our own anger it’s going to be very hard to be comfortable around someone else’s anger.
Even if people are on their way down the emotional frequency chart we shouldn’t try to stop them. All of us will have times in life where we need to go down… to bounce up.
All emotions have value. Both high vibration and low vibration emotions are equally valuable. The point is to treat the whole spectrum like a range, a piano, a journey. It’s really only when we loose our fluidity and get stuck in low vibration emotions that they can become problematic. Other than that, feeling emotions is just running through the sprinkler of life.
When Jealousy is Your Savior
Let’s take a close up look at the vibrational frequency chart above, zoomed in to spread out the variants of anger in order of descending vibration.
Worry and insecurity flank the vibrations of anger as transition points.
Worry is a vibration that often directs inward. We worry in our head, have looping thoughts, stress out, and it’s mostly internal. Sure we may tell others of our worries, but most of the impact is on us.
When worry becomes too much we overflow in to blame. Blame is now the inner angst of worry that couldn’t be solved directed externally. It becomes easier to make what we view as unfixable or stressful issues someone else’s fault.
Now we are not responsible for solving them; someone else is. It’s a move down, but the tricky thing is, it feels better.
In the emotional frequency chart of life, anger typically presents as a release. An externally moving vibrational spectrum of emotions.
Same as we breathe in and out, nature presents us a way to internally reflect on, and release, emotional charges.
From blame to jealousy, the emotional spectrum of anger is typically emotions we feel toward others. Rarely do we turn our rage upon ourselves.
Conversely, in the spectrums flanking anger we see disappointment, doubt and worry straight above + insecurity, unworthiness, and guilt below. It’s no surprise anger is flanked by internally directed emotional states.
The vibrational frequency chart of emotions, when utilized in a state of fluidity, is meant to provide us periods of reflection and release.
Jealousy is our last defense against that same energy moving inward and causing us to spiral down in to insecurity. Whatever you do, it’s worth trying to hold on to the cliff edge of jealousy.
To see an emotional vibration chart focusing on the larger range of emotions please see my first article on vibrational frequency charts.
Spiritual Bypassing: To Suppress is to Ingest
Issues arise when we begin avoiding emotional states, and halt our flow along the vibrational frequency chart. This happens when we label emotional states as bad, fear feeling certain emotional vibrations, or avoid emotional states to keep people around us happy.
We may feel guilty getting upset with someone who was rude to us because we don’t want to cause a problem. Deciding not to do that is a choice we can make at times, but when it becomes a pattern of conflict avoidance we’re stuck emotionally.
Raise your vibration by sharing what’s authentically going on, setting a boundary, or just getting mad.
Anger gets such a bad rap, but there’s so many times when anger is the most appropriate reaction. Yet, as a society we seem to have shamed ourselves out of this potentially high vibration option.
I suspect the problem is we collectively suppress so much anger and rage as a society that when we decide to let some out we often explode. Tons of repressed anger comes out all at once, and the result is startlingly explosive.
This is a bit removed from a healthy expression of anger. Healthy anger comes out as it’s felt, so the result isn’t as bombastic. It’s typically a clunky delivery of feelings, perhaps punctuated by some frustrated sounds, huffing, and maybe leaving the room to cool down. A few good air punches or a yell. No big deal.
However, I sense our society is so out of touch with healthy anger even me writing what it could look like may feel weird to some- because we wouldn’t even let ourselves do that. (I mean, make frustrated sounds? Seriously? How weird.)
Be Authentic: Mean Girls Have More Freedom
Is your mean hurting anyone besides yourself? We are absolutely taking a vibrational hit when we’re mean or speak about someone behind their back. However, sometimes it’s better to acknowledge where we are in life than hold ourselves to idealistic standards we aren’t really meeting anyway.
It doesn’t make me high vibration to entertain catty thoughts while smiling at someone. I’d be better off integrating by finding a moderate way to phrase what I’m really thinking.
When “good” or “spiritual” becomes conflated with the idea we need to reside solely in the high vibration end of the emotional frequency chart (naturally only feeling joy and gratitude) that’s a problem. It causes us to try and emulated that… when that’s not who most of us are.
I don’t know about you, but I’m not Gandhi. I wish I was, but no.
I’m the girl who watched two people try to push a cart through a one-way swinging gate at a grocery store recently and snorted in laughter as they got all jostled around. Did I wish I wasn’t laughing? Yes. Did I feel mean? Yes. Did I wish I felt only sympathy and rushed to help them? Kinda. However, the point is I didn’t. I stood in the entry cracking up and thinking they were dumb. Yup, on top of all that I judged.
I quote Gandhi because he’s aspirational to me, yet I’m very aware I’m a messy human; a far cry from him. One of my goals is to stop trying to pretend we’re similar.
The great thing about this is: I get permission to be angry. To applaud Princess Diana’s revenge dress. To feel jealous of women with better jewelry who know how to layer winter outfits without looking like the kid who can’t put his arms down in A Christmas Story. To blame my partner for something I realize later is my fault.
Anger is a vibration we visit, and don’t overstay our welcome in. Maybe even laugh about later. Messy and aligned is more powerful than nice and suppressed.
How to Get Unstuck from Angry Patterns
What causes us to get stuck in anger? I often notice this happening when we avoid communicating what we’re really angry about. When we avoid confrontation anger’s vibratory charge stays in our body. Naturally, we want to release it. So we do. In weird ways.
I imagine we’ve all seen this- when someone repeatedly rants about topics that don’t seem to need ranting about. An outside observer can see the person is wrapped up in agitation about something that seems out of left field.
It may not be safe to tell our spouse we’re angry, but it’s not suspicious to let that anger out ranting about a political figure.
When we let anger out “sideways” like this we avoid the actual uncomfortable conversation we need to have. Nothing gets better. We stay trapped in a racket where we’re upset and silent.
When I notice myself getting snarky and passive aggressive in my head, it’s a clue I’ve been avoiding speaking up. Same goes for comments we make that are slightly offensive, and labeled as jokes. What’s the real thing we need to say to free ourselves?
Avoidance of Anger Confuses the Immune System
Those who’ve read my article on how raising your vibration influences health may recall releasing anger helps us stay healthy. Internal suppression of slowly oscillating emotions can not only mess with how well our cells function, but it can freak out our nervous system and immune system.
Conversely, stress hormones from chronic anger can destroy neurons the brain associated with judgment and weaken the immune system.
A huge way I see avoidance of anger affecting health is boundaries. When we don’t have strong boundaries because we fear anger from others, we may do things like help people who are routinely rude to us.
Our immune system and nervous system may become overreactive to protect us from our weak boundaries.
The immune system can overreact to non-threatening stimuli, and the nervous system may throw up a slew of anxiety every time we approach a boundary.
This is how we can heal what we perceive to be solely physical body symptoms by learning to confidently navigate the vibrational frequency chart of emotions.
Being B*tchy Can Be Liberating
When we’ve suppressed anger for a long time the release can be oh so satisfying. I’ve felt giddy at times allowing myself the luxury of my inner Lucille Bluth, “She thinks I’m too critical…that’s another fault of hers” moments.
Just give people a heads up. Tell your partner what you’re doing. Give people a warning you’re in a bad mood and ask permission to vent. Vent with others only when you’re also willing to also address the problems with person you’re venting about. Find your voice by setting some guidelines.
When we are new to feeling anger we want to claim it for ourselves before we practice with others. A volcano with tons of lava underground is going to be explosive. The first time we try anything we often suck. Same for allowing anger.
I started by letting mirrors have a good dose of all the snarky things I’d never said out loud. If you’ve been suppressing feelings “to be nice” or only focus on what you’re grateful for this can be amazing.
Situations are 99% never all white light and goodness. An obsession with gratitude can lower vibration through suppression. We can find gratitude and have permission to acknowledge what’s annoying.
When we vocalize feelings on the lower end of the vibrational frequency chart of emotions we release some charge and clean our emotional closet. This gives us capacity for all the future eyebrow-raising experiences life will offer plenty of.
If you’ve enjoyed this article you may enjoy reading about what life is like with a higher vibration, or how anxiety can raise your vibration.