Signs of a Low Vibration Person
What is a low vibration person? 9 common behaviors indicating your vibration may not be going in the direction you'd like.
*For your listening pleasure there is also an audio version of this article read by the author. It may include a few sidebars ;)
Low Vibration Person Disclaimer
I’ve gotta begin by admitting I can’t stand the term low vibration person. I also feel similarly uncomfortable with the term high vibration person. They are so black and white; they suck all the air out of the complexity that it is to be human. It’s going to be pretty rare for us to find someone that’s solidly high vibration or low vibration. We are all a collection of hundreds of vibrations that collectively make our vibrational frequency. The goal is to eliminate as many of the low vibrations as possible and elevate our frequency.
We might find ourselves in a low vibration space while driving, only to arrive at an event and completely brighten a room. We might go home from absolutely crushing it at work, only to have our vibration sink in to loneliness when we are alone in a big house. Point is, we fluctuate all the time. When I wrote my article on high vibration people I spoke about those who seem to have found an upward spiral. They’ve aligned with themselves, broken through barriers of fear and rejection to do what they love, or developed themselves in to people with a magnetism or wisdom that’s contagious to be around. Yet it doesn’t mean they don’t flip out at times, or never get depressed.
Calling Someone Low Vibration is Typically Inaccurate
I write this article and use the term low vibration person carefully. It’s not something I feel we can ever assign to anyone else with much level of certainty because we often interact with people in only a few areas of their life, or in limited capacity. A grumpy old man at the grocery store might be the best grandfather ever. My Dad ignored me to watch TV when I was young, but he had a silver star for gallantry in action and saving his friend’s life in Vietnam. Someone who breaks your heart can be someone else’s hero.
Only we can feel our own vibrations fully and assess to the best of our knowledge where we may fall on a continuum. I also suspect humans carry a natural tendency to overestimate our own vibrations, and underestimate those of others. It takes a pretty high level of self awareness to see our own blind spots that sabotage vibration. As I enhance my vibration more blind spots are always revealed along the way; it’s a slow ladder climb to the upper echelons of vibrational frequency.
Likewise, we tend to see people in one context and assume that’s all they are. So if we see someone on a bad day we may be tempted to call them low vibration, but vibration is a fluid thing, with a heaping dose of nuance. The way we speak to ourselves in our own mind carries a vibration. Our gallbladder’s health contributes to our vibration. It would be very difficult to assess all the vibratory components of someone else and assign a high or low vibration value.
Sometimes I get annoyed with people and my inner dialogue might sling the term low vibration person their way. Then I sigh in disappointment at my judgmental self and think of everything I don’t know about them. My hope is this article will be used not as a way to understand what low vibration is so the term can be used against others, but as a resource to understand what low vibration looks like so we can all elevate our vibrations together.
Examples of Low Vibration Behavior
Perfection as a goal is a rocket ship to the land of disappointment. Quite a few of the behaviors on this list come from things I’m working on turning around myself in life. (I feel compelled to note I’ve never taken a phone call in a movie theater, yet this is funny because my low vibration behaviors are far more damaging.)
I invite you to read this list with a sense of humor if something you do shows up. No one expects you to have it all dialed in. Messy evolving humans are interesting, and if you’re reading this I’d bet you lean more toward an interest in personal growth than away from it. Tupac Shakur has referred to himself as a thug, a poet, a rebel and a visionary. The contrast inherent in our humanity is often what makes us fascinating.
“I want to grow. I want to be better. We're made to grow. You either evolve or you disappear.” ~Tupac Shakur
1.) Lacking External Awareness
High vibration is the ability to stay in touch with how we’re doing, and have an awareness of how our behavior lands with others. When we get overly attuned one way or another we lose balance. We want to be able to tell (and ideally care) that taking a phone call in a movie theater, or fixing something that involves hammering early in the morning is likely lowering the experiences of those around us. Lacking this care is typically a sign of someone in a lower vibration space.
2.) Deflecting Accountability
Someone recently drove in to my mom’s garage while the door was shut. Seriously. Then peeled out and left no note. My jaw was dropped at just what a low vibration space someone would have to be in to cause such serious damage to someone else’s home and take zero responsibility. This is an extreme example that can trickle down to denting someone’s car while parallel parking and not leaving a note, or not being able to take ownership for issues we cause in a relationship. Shirking responsibility for our actions in life typically indicates a lower vibration mindset. Taking ownership is how we soar.
3.) Thinking We Have Super Powers We Don’t Have
Imagination tells us all kinds of interesting stories- like that we know what’s best for others in life. (I thought I had this super power until about three weeks ago.) It feels silly now, but I genuinely thought I had the power to see someone else’s best path for them, and naturally, tell them how to get there. I mean, how amazing right? Wouldn’t you want me around telling you what to do? Except that you wouldn’t.
What’s meaningful in life is to find our own way; blaze our own trail. Everyone’s blueprint for success looks different. Someone with a different skillset than me will find success in a very different way. My action steps are only good for me. Trying to force them on someone else with a different blueprint is just me wasting time lowering my own vibration while frustrating someone else.
4.) Lacking Confidence to Speak to People Directly
Venting with a friend is fine. We sometimes need to express our frustration with a trusted confidant to figure out what we want to say to someone directly. Yet, when we consistently badmouth people with zero plans to discuss anything with them directly, this complaining lowers vibration. There’s also typically a lack of confidence or conflict avoidance present we can work on if we want to start raising our vibration. There’s so much elegance in finding your voice and communicating frustration respectfully.
5.) Believing Others Should Change
If we constantly find ourselves looking at others expecting them to change it’s probably us who needs to evolve. When I want someone to change it’s typically to help me feel comfortable in an area of life where I feel a lot of fear, or am not well developed as a human. When we are secure, calm and confident in ourselves we don’t need others to change as much. That said, we get to decide if we want someone in our life or not after accepting who they really are.
6.) Copying or Taking Credit for Other’s Work
In a high vibration state taking credit for someone else’s work would feel so bad it would be next to impossible. Our emotions can act as vibratory warning systems. Alerting us through sensation when something we are about to do isn’t leading us to a high vibration outcome. Engaging in either of these behaviors typically signals someone in a lower vibration phase of life who can’t sense the true cost of their actions. Everything we do is recorded in our vibration. There is no “getting away with something” even though it can appear that way in the short term.
7.) Getting in Front of a Waterfall
This is when we waste energy trying to redirect the flow of someone else’s life because we perceive they will end up with a negative outcome we can’t stomach. They are in the river rushing toward the waterfall and we are blocking their way. Ignoring the principle that sometimes people need to crash down to bounce up.
We often delay people’s growth when we do this- all based on what we imagine will happen. Maybe their soul wants the ride; it’s not our call to make. We can’t get in the way of someone else’s life choices forever. Whether it’s perpetually saving someone from experiencing the true consequences of their choices, or keeping someone from going down a path that looks scary to us, it’s an energy drain that often lowers the vibrations of everyone involved.
8.) Disconnection from our Vibratory Alert System
My partner has an arsenal of tools and is incredibly generous allowing people to borrow them. I’m always surprised by those who return them in worse condition, or do something like leave them out in the rain. Asking for a favor, and then leaving the person who granted it in a worse position takes a certain level of disconnection from self. High vibration states allow us clarity to see when our behavior is questionable, and gently redirect us to higher vibration options- like delivering a thank you coffee while returning clean tools.
9.) Wasting Vitality on Control
I have a tendency to lean toward controlling behaviors. I did a meditation recently where I let go of any situation or person I was trying to influence. I was amazed at the energy that flooded back to me. When we try to control situations or people we invest a decent amount of our energy in them- and that’s a big loss to us. The more we try to control in life the more we give up big chunks of our vitality we could use in far more creative or satisfying ways. Potentially even raising our vibration.
I’m setting aside a few hours each week to work with a handful of people interested in raising their vibration. Pop over to my new consulting page if you’re interested! If you’d like to continue to study solo you may enjoy reading What Influences Your Vibrational Frequency?