How Reality Conforms to Vibrational Frequency
How Reality Conforms to Vibrational Frequency
The external world is a hologram. How we may hold far more power to shape our world through inner work and vibration vs. work in the external world.
*For your listening pleasure there is also an audio version of this article read by the author. It may include a few sidebars ;)
Updated July 2024
Life Reflects the Vibrational Frequency of Our Inner World
I’m starting to believe the power to change our worlds comes disproportionately from internal work, compared to what we can achieve working primarily in the external.
Dedicating our energy to shaping the external world while we remain relatively the same internally is akin to rearranging the furniture in a design store showroom. Futile. An employee will inevitably move the furniture back.
The quality of our life and experiences in the outer world will continually reflect the vibrational frequency of our inner world. We can snatch some value and satisfaction changing things in the external.
Yet, when we start to look inside ourselves for where we can upgrade as a soul, it begins to look more like exponential advantage. Equivalent to writing a rap song about chess strategy yourself, or asking ChatGPT to do it.
Our outer worlds are a hologram of what’s inside us. If we are storing a bunch of unresolved grief our external world will bring us triggers to release the grief (yay).
It will bring us lovers and friends with similar amounts of inner emotional disturbance. The vibration of our inner world influences the vibration of our relationships.
If we want less drama in our life we need to resolve our own stored emotions that shrink our capacity to respond calmly to others. If we want a job that pays more than we make, we want to build up our self worth to match.
High Vibration = Using the Universe’s Battery
We can certainly achieve plenty working in the external world. Cost is the issue. My first tech mentor used to say to me, "Don’t tell me what you’ve gained until you tell me what you’ve lost to gain it.”
We use up our internal battery running a life on grit and determination. When in all likelihood we need that grit because we’re doing something unaligned. We can also do wonderfully aligned things at an unscalable rate. Many corporations demand this of us.
When we are aligned with what we’re doing we use the universe’s battery. When we aren’t aligned we use up our own energy stores.
Results take more bandwidth to achieve, as actions may not feel inspired to light the path. So we burn a lot of energy analyzing what’s best. Or we plunge ahead and commit to figuring things out later. Yay adventure! Possibly a circuitous route to our destination.
Every path will have elements we consider beautiful and troublesome. All paths on the below leaf are valid. We can just see the path up the middle (otherwise known as our aligned and highest vibration path) is going to be a different journey than one way off on the left side in the weeds.
Downsides to Improving Life Using the External World
Operating in the external world takes more mental compute power. When our mind is overworked it starts absorbing vitality from other areas to keep going. This diminishes our vibration. Life can start to look one-dimensional as we sacrifice our vibrational frequency to feed an objective.
Say we achieve our objective, land a high level job after years of sacrifice. Only to find we feel like an imposter, and are plagued with feelings of unease because our inner confidence doesn’t match the title. We now have emotions like doubt, and perhaps fear of losing the job, lowering the vibrational frequency of our experience. We tell ourselves we just need to do enough to stay valuable.
We often feel doing more is the answer to success.
Versus slowing down to avoid making important decisions while viewing our life through the window of a speeding car. Calls made at this speed can take us down paths that don’t reflect our intentions. We run down paths that don’t have a chance of containing what we want, because we make decisions from a place of anxiety.
Mistakenly thinking an anxiously made low vibration decision will lead to a calm high vibration pathway. We don’t want to quit, so we never turn around. Life is a maze. This is one way to end up on the far left side of the leaf.
The emotion we’re in when we make a decision has a very high probability of being the emotion we experience on the other side of the door we open. If we want a peaceful outcome, we want to be in a peaceful high vibration place when we make the decision. Doing this repeatedly is how to vibrate higher.
The power to change our worlds comes disproportionately from internal work, compared to what we can achieve attempting to speed and power through the external world.
Internal work helps us find a higher vibration as we become increasingly self-aware versions of ourselves. Doing more in the external often drains us and lowers vibration.
I’m offering the story of Aven below to illustrate a vibrational frequency building internal path to life. Candidly, delving in to Aven’s story with meaningful depth would mean I’d write book chapters about this process, not paragraphs. I’d counsel someone for hours on one topic alone.
The idea is to to offer a high level overview of improving our lives through a vibrational internal path, rather than conventionally accepted external path that doesn’t factor in the power of vibrational frequency. Basically, I feel like I’m trying to shove a giant stuffed elephant in to a tiny gift box writing this article, but here we go.
Aven’s Story: How Inner Work Influences the External World
A casualty in a slew of tech layoffs, Aven knows he has potential to go entrepreneurial, but lacks *the big idea.* He’s so damn tired.
Without a Director’s workload he’d like to date, but has a story he’s less of a catch unemployed.
After 15+ years in his industry he feels a bit lost without the luster his former employer’s name gave him. He’d really let that influence his self worth.
He’s always said when he has time he’ll amp up his poker game. Yet, now that he has time, the thought of blindly joining a high stakes game is intimidating.
How does Aven get life to align with his desires working internally? He realizes an idea for a company will come if he can get himself to a rapidly oscillating inspired space.
Inspiration takes energy. So he doesn’t try to fill his empty time with things to do to feel he’s “achieving something.” He rests; knowing that when you slow down you raise your vibration.
He works out the anger and frustration of being let go by boxing. He knows it will diminish his vibration to pretend he’s not upset.
While he rests he thinks about high vibration environments he can put himself in that will be exciting. Inspiration rarely arrives when we are feeling exhausted, lackluster or bored. It’s often ushered in with fun, novelty, and at times we are being our most authentic selves.
Aven lets go of the pressure he was putting on himself to come up with an idea in 90 days. He acknowledges pressure will diminish his vibration and creative capacities. When his inner voice goes rogue on him whispering things like, “The idea will never come. Just get another job” he feels the uncomfortable sensations in his body until they pass.
He knows acting from fear or discomfort will take him down a low vibration path.
He understands his life has been so busy it feels uncomfortable to not be busy- not that it’s actually a bad thing.
He’s expanding his capacity to live his life outside the narrow scope he’s known the last 15 years. This is the process of building new pathways and finding a higher consciousness.
He books a trip to Hanoi. Plans to rent a motorcycle when he gets there. Gives himself reason to buy that exotic black leather jacket he’d always wanted reason to wear. Other than that he doesn’t make plans to fill time on the trip.
He’s avoiding dating apps, noticing he’s telling himself there’s not someone he’d mesh with on them. Digging deeper, he catches he has nothing to back up the narrative other than a friend who had a terrible experience. He slows down and recognizes this friend was freshly divorced, and still pretty messy emotionally at the time. Perhaps his experience could be different.
He spends time on walks envisioning manifesting love, and dates going well. Imagines the warm feelings of connection, thinks about how much he enjoys deep conversation. Feels the excitement of celebrating a two month anniversary. The delight of bantering with someone who mentally challenges him.
He pulls out his own belief he’s somehow less of a catch now that he’s not with a flashy tech company. Recognizes that was an easy way to value his worth in lieu of wondering why he didn’t feel confident before working there. He used his company name like a shield to add value because he didn’t know how to value himself.
He finds a therapist and digs in to high school experiences he’s identified as when he started to feel insecurity. The memories are affecting his vibration now.
He goes back in time and feels the discomfort his younger, diffident self didn’t have capacity for. Feeling his old embarrassment instead of avoiding it eases the grip of those memories, and gives him confidence he can do uncomfortable things personally- and in the office. Expansion.
His self worth rises, not just from clearing old emotional imprints, but from realizing he’s capable of healing himself. He can face awkward and new challenges.
Losing the low vibrational weight of emotions defining how he saw himself, he sees that even if he’s not excelling in international negotiations at work, he has value. He’s a genuine person. Rarely lies. Communicates earnestly.
His demeanor seems to help people feel relaxed in his presence; how had he not noticed that before?
Aven is able to see there’s more to him than his professional achievements. Through that lens, he is certainly a decent companion. Not as defined by success in one dimension of his life as he thought.
Aven’s Vibration After Vietnam
Months later, on a road nestled in rice paddies outside Sapa, Aven pauses his motorcycle, watching sun rays slant through the clouds to splash on the terraced rice fields below. Highlighting the mist rising from the paddies. He thinks, “If there is a God, she must be from Vietnam.”
His mind feels crisp and alert. He didn’t realize how mentally dull and reliant on routine it had become. It must have come on so slowly he never noticed the atrophy of his mental abilities.
With his higher vibration he even looks younger. Startling really. He has no girlfriend, but having dismantled additional stories he was telling himself about why he wouldn’t find one, he’s confident in himself as a partner when he’s ready.
He spent time on the flight over feeling grateful ahead of time for the poker game he knows he’ll stumble across. He’ll do the same thing tonight.
He’s let go that it even needs to be poker. He understands there could be another way to experience the feelings he wants from poker. He may only think poker is the vehicle.
So he’s leaving room to be pleasantly surprised, instead of dogmatic, about what he wants.
Ignoring Intuition = Ignoring Opportunity
Two months after painfully extracting himself from Ha Long Bay (watching the sun set as a virulent red ball, listening to The Animals sing "The House of the Rising Sun") he’ll follow an intuition to get his cappuccino early from a cafe across from his gym.
He’ll run in to Aveline. She’s not a romantic match, but a potential co-founder. They’ll figure out the frisson between them comes from a shared interest in which AI tools can be leveraged to help a startup run more efficiently, and which tasks need a personal touch.
Three weeks later he’ll be on his fourth date with Emily. A girl he wouldn’t have met without the emotional work to build his confidence; he would have been completely intimidated.
Her brother is a former CTO co-founding a startup, seeking someone of his experience to help secure funding with Accel’s developer tools team.
Sketching on his couch one night he’ll have an idea flit through his mind so quickly he almost misses it. Had it come through when he was rushing to meet Aksel for lunch earlier he definitely wouldn’t have noted it. (If you’d like to read about Aksel, he has his own story illustrating how frequency and vibration affect relationships.)
The idea needs flushing out, but the concept gives him a stir of excitement unfamiliar to him in his former life. Could be worth pursuing.
The First Option Isn’t Necessarily “Meant to Be”
As we conclude Aven’s story for now, there’s an idea in the last few paragraphs I’d like to elaborate on.
If we are creating pathways for experiences to show up in our lives, we want to avoid temptation to think the first option is fate.
If we’ve been doing inner work to make it rain, there’s usually a dry spell while we gather momentum, and then it pours. Our creations catch up to us with abundance.
We’ll often be given options to help us refine our path before we hit gold. If Aven had jumped to Aveline being his business partner because of timing, or a need to get out of uncertainty, he would have missed other options. Including his own idea.
This is where not rushing through life is key for a higher vibration. A truly high vibration path rarely requires a snap decision.
There’s some time to let an idea simmer. Feel out if it’s what we are looking for, or helps inspire what we are looking for.
Aven’s Story: External Work Alone Can Cause Lower Vibration Outcomes
For contrast, let’s look (in 2x speed) at how Aven’s hologram could have turned out if he didn’t care about self reflection, or internal work to alter his vibration.
Aven acts on low vibration feelings of discomfort he’s not doing enough with his free time. He never rests enough to get his creativity going.
He continues the pattern of only knowing how to feel good in positions of authority, so he starts mentoring others in his field. (An example of semi-altruism without self reflection leading us away from timelines we may want to explore.)
Hanoi doesn’t even occur to him. This cancels the timeline of his business idea because it needs free mental space, fun and ease to show up.
He feels unworthy without his job and decides not to date until he’s either come up with a business plan, or rehired somewhere. This cancels the timeline of Emily and the CTO looking for a third business partner. It needs true confidence to materialize.
To avoid feelings of anger about being let go he packs his schedule. With free time the anger becomes noticeable, and he doesn’t want to explode. There’s no room for following an impulse to get his cappuccino early and the Aveline timeline is canceled.
After months he’s fed up with nothing to do, and just wants to get back to work. It’s rather bold for him to have thought he could start a company. He can’t sit around forever. It’s been four months!
He applies to jobs, and lands a role after a friend refers him. There will be no time to date, but he’s invited to a poker game on Saturday night at one of the executive’s swank houses. 14g clay chips and witty banter are both on the table. Life is good.
At the game talk of travel comes up and he shares his plans to go to Vietnam someday. Although he notes it could probably never live up to the expectations he’d have after a 15 hour flight- right?
If you’re curious about how enhancing vibration can alter your reality I’m excited to meet you! Visit my website to see if anything resonates, or keep reading on your own with The High Vibration Person’s Guide to Dazzling Success. Cheers to you!